(Closed) Upgrading your engagement ring..tacky? or why not!

posted 12 years ago in Rings
Post # 61
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Newbee

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krissybee: to be completely honest with you I really do believe that it comes down to the individual themselves and the situation I feel like if you and your guy have already discussed it and he has no problem with you getting a different ring then that is an agreement that is mutually between the both of you and that it doesn’t really matter what anyone else thinks no disrespect to your mother of course I myself I’m in a similar situation when my husband and I originally got engaged and got married he didn’t really have the money to buy a brand new engagement ring and wedding ring so the original engagement ring and wedding ring that I got when he asked me to marry him and at our wedding ceremony actually used to belong to his mother my mother-in-law and I have what you might call a somewhat strained relationship which is a story for another time so when we eventually got into a situation where we could afford to do so he bought me a new bridal set that came specifically just from him and no one else I still keep and wear from time to time my original set as it does have sentimental value being that he did put it on my finger when he asked me to marry him and on our wedding day but for the most part I wear the newer one when I asked him how he felt about that because I was going through a time where I thought maybe I was doing an injustice to him by wearing rings  that wete not the original rings he gave me he said that he completely understood and that he didn’t mind so even though I do still wear the original rings that he gave me from time to time for the most part I do wear the newer ones  I really do believe that it really depends on the couple and the situation at hand I hope this helps

Post # 62
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MissCamera:  I agree to a point here I do believe that the symbolism of the ring is more important than materialism but as for my situation it really wasn’t about materialism it was about something on a more personal level

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MissCamera:  I agree to a point here I do believe that the symbolism of the ring is more important than materialism but as for my situation it really wasn’t about materialism it was about something on a more personal level

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MissCamera:  I agree to a point here I do believe that the symbolism of the ring is more important than materialism but as for my situation it really wasn’t about materialism it was about something on a more personal level

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MissCamera:  I agree to a point here I do believe that the symbolism of the ring is more important than materialism but as for my situation it really wasn’t about materialism it was about something on a more personal level

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Post # 66
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Helper bee

upgrade is a good idea

Post # 67
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I wouldn’t do it. I’m not saying others shouldn’t though. My Fiance spent more on my ring and bought a nicer one than I wanted so it wouldn’t need to be upgraded. Initially I told him I wanted a princess cut cluster with a halo because I knew they were less expensive. The clerk explained that they could make my daughter and I matching earrings with the cluster later down the road and that the center stone could be upgraded to a solitaire. He hated that idea (Of having to spend more money and ring/jewelry shop all over again).

 

If were in a different situation I would consider upgrading a stone or something (like I was going to do) but I definitely wouldn’t want to change or replace the whole ring or anything. 

Post # 68
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

i would love to ‘upgrade’ my ring at some point. As long as it my FI is fine with it. I think the symbolism of wearing rings on that finger is the outwards symbol of being married and thats what matters. I would defo choose to be engaged with a smaller ring and then hapily save together when we have more money in the future 🙂

Post # 69
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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krissybee:  To me, the engagement ring *IS* the ring given at the engagement. That’s its value, and I would never ever want to replace mine. That said, I love variety, and I am on board with receiving additional rings as anniversary gifts and switching them up sometimes.

Post # 70
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Blushing bee

I would roll my eyes and mime a silet “taackyyyy” if someone told me this irl or if I suddenly saw someone had done this…

 

well, no, I wouldn’t. But I would maybe think that;)

Post # 71
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: South Lodge. 2nd of Dec 2017

I would never upgrade mine, I love it today but …… Hahaha I am a girl I might change my mind tomorrow.  Guaranteed if he said hey babe new bling, I would be sat there like a nodding dog.  Dosent mean I don’t love my ring today!!

Post # 72
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Busy bee

I don’t think it’s tacky per se. But upgrading is not for me. I am very sentimental and I don’t think the diamond size is the most important factor. 

Post # 73
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Helper bee

I don’t think it is tacky. Majority of the people where I am from have their original engagement ring, and then their “upgrades”. Personally I want one, because of the sentimental value. But you could also reset the first one or wear it as a right hand ring!

Post # 74
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Busy bee

Im not as emotionally attatched to my ring so I personally say why not. I’m emotionally attatched to the idea behind the ring and the symbol of it, so changing the material does not affect that aspect. Our tastes evolve and we grow as a couple, so why not have the ring also change with that? 

Post # 75
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018 - City Hall

I’m getting a cheap CZ Sears ring, because it’s all we can afford in the middle of our move, and we’re upgrading it for later. I PERSONALLY couldn’t care less, unless the sterling silver gives me allergies, but my boyfriend apparently would be embarrassed if it was my permanent ring, so that’s his reasoning lol I personally say “why not!” if you wanna go get another one, and both of you don’t mind, go for it.

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