- 5 years ago
I’ve had a few posts about my situation (he bought the ring, we went to Meixo (no proposal) I was sad, and then I peeked at the ring)… Well here we are, almost two months later (from when he bought the ring) and even after a few trips (Mexico, Colorado & some local amazing hikes) I’m still ringless.
I’ve tried to remain calm & patient… And to keep remembering that I AM lucky – afterall he has the ring… but some days I just want to throw a huge, HUGE pity party. You know, the kind when you cry, eat lots of chocolate and ask yourself “Whyyy meeeee??” when you’re really just being an impatient little brat.
Anyways, I’m trying to avoid a pity party & since I want to keep this a secret IRL here I am, ranting & going on and on…
Here’s a little bit how my waiting story has gone:
I accidentally (really) found out he bought the ring. I had my heart set on a ring from Etsy. And it turns out, she was having a sale (25% off!!!) and being the frugal people we are, I had a hunch he’d jump on it – which he did. I went home for lunch one day and there was a 2-day air package wedged in the door. I freaked a little and went to Target instead..then back to work. I tried to play it cool all day and I wanted to make sure that he got home before me. So after work I went back to the store, walked around and finally decided to head home… BUT HE WASN’T HOME YET. SO, I get back in the car and HIDE OUT in the school parking lot. LOL, yes, this is real! I finally see him drive by. About 30 seconds later I pulled in. Sat in my car for a few seconds and then went inside, just as he was walking out of the bedroom (where he hid the ring).
Next – we went to Mexico, where I was positive it was going to happen. That turned out to be a HUGE let down (the letdown was no ring, the trip was awesome). I threw a pity party on the way to the airport, and all the way home. The pity party continued for about a week until I finally realized I needed to snap out of it. I was being a big baby.
We took gorgeous hikes and there were plenty of great opportunities. We went to Zion National Park – notta. Colorado – notta. I eventually decided that I needed to “Shut it up” (since it’s worked for soo many ladies here) and I’ve been quiet for 3-4 weeks now, I can’t remember exactly.
And now, well, now I’m getting antsy again. I’m contemplating starting a general conversation about marriage and then throwing it out there (I’ve told him all this before, but I think guys have selective hearing) that I do not want a huge, expensive ring and I do not want/need a huge, fancy proposal. He’s very shy & I’m starting to wonder if he thinks my expectations are so big that he’s not going to be able to work up the courage to do it the way I want it. I want to end the convo with one thing: The ONLY thing that I want is to marry my best friend. End of story.
Now that you’ve read a novel, ladies who knew their SO had the ring & spent a while waiting- please tell me… Did you find that it was better to keep quiet? Or did you find that your SO needed a little reminder, reassurance or “push” if you will to finalize the deal?
Little background on us: We’ve been dating for 4.5 years, living together for 3.5. We moved across the country together. We are best friends! We’ve had conversations about marriage & have talked about a Destination Wedding many times. I’m not sure why he’s taking so long, since he has the ring.. but that would be a new post on it’s own 😉
Whew. Thanks for reading… I also bought this to help fill my immediate ring “need” 😉 One for me & one for the BFF (love etsy!)