Post # 1
Ive just found out that my bridesmaids have sent out an invite to all my girlfriends for my hens night. The run down of the night is:
Drinks at local pub
go across the road to eat dinner at a local cafe
go to the nightclub again, across the road
I am so so SO upset and disappointed that they didnt put in ANY effort at all. I have been to the local pub a million times! its certainly not what i want to be doing on my hens night.
I have found out that they are trying to do something cheap because a) they cannot afford much themselves and b) i have previously said i dont want to ask people for too much money
I understand the cost and Im absolutely fine with doing something on the cheap side but im devastated and feel like they didnt go to any effort to think of something better than the local pub!
Its truely not what I want to do for my night out on the town. What should I do? Is it too late for me to step in and change the plans? Should I just keep my mouth shut and be grateful?
I have several other great ideas that would be even cheaper than the current plan like a treasure hunt, dance lesson, harbour cruise etc etc. But is it too late for me to say anything? I mean, they’ve already sent the invite out!
My mother has even arranged to fly interstate so she can attend…so now, she is flying in just for a visit to the local pub!
What should I do???
Post # 3
@gemms28: They probably picked it because you HAVE been there a million times, and obviously enjoy the place.
There’s no good way around this. At this point, just go, and be grateful you have a great group of ladies to celebrate with.
Post # 4
You know what you do, you go have a great time and appreciate the fact that you are lucky enough to have people that love you enough to do this, because many women don’t even have that.
Post # 5
Enjoy your girls’ night out and be grateful to your friends, sometimes simple things work better than anything else. And who knows they might surprise you with something amazing during the night….
Post # 6
Sadly, we don’t get to choose what happens when we aren’t hosting the party. Just go and have fun with girls that love you! I bet it will be a blast!!
Post # 7
I hope they have planned something WAYYY special and you don’t know it!! Worst case scenario… you have a nice night out with the ladies. Maybe you could ask them if you could still incorporate a scavenger hunt into the plan to make things interesting (find a guy with a tattoo of lady, find someone with a kitchen utensil in their purse … etc). You could also plan something special for your bridesmaids as a thank you and incorporate one of your ideas then you get to enjoy both plans. Win Win!!
Post # 8
I agree with the other bees what you should do is be grateful that your girls have graciously thrown a party for you!
As fro your ideas for a great night why not shelve them for when one of your friends is getting married or for an upcoming birthday or just a girls night out!
Post # 9
I don’t know the expectations around hens and stags because it’s uncommon where I live, so I don’t really understand why you are so upset. I mean, people are hosting a night out JUST FOR YOU. Isn’t that a wonderful thing?
But if you feel so strongly that the current plan is lame. Maybe you be brave and step in, then cancel the current plan, and you be the co-host of what you want to do…that way you’ll have it your way.
Post # 10
Thanks Bees! I know it may sound like I am being completely unreasonable and selfish so let me explain a little further……we have a large group of girlfriends and lots of them that have already gotten married. We all go to each others hens and weddings and some of the other hens have been
Pole dancing lessons, a weekend away, mechanical bull riding class, pamper sessions with mani/pedis and massages, pottery class, private karaoke, body painting classes
all of these are followed by moving onto a club or dance place by bus. Im just devestated that its going to be different for me when it hasnt been for all the other girls. Maybe I am just selfish by thinking that way.
Post # 11
@gemms28: This doesn’t change anything, really. Be grateful for the night out, and graciously thank the host.
Post # 12
@gemms28 I think it makes sense as to why you might feel a little left out. I’m certain it isn’t intentional on their part but that doesn’t mean you don’t get to feel a little let down either. You had anticipated something different based on the past parties thrown by the same group of ladies. If most of the ladies in this group are now married it’s possible they are entering different stages in their life and some of their new life demands have divided their time and altered their expectations. I’m sure you’ll be very gracious regardless and I’m also sure you’ll have an awesome time.