(Closed) Upset about my hens party

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@gemms28:  They probably picked it because you HAVE been there a million times, and obviously enjoy the place. 

There’s no good way around this. At this point, just go, and be grateful you have a great group of ladies to celebrate with.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You know what you do, you go have a great time and appreciate the fact that you are lucky enough to have people that love you enough to do this, because many women don’t even have that.

Post # 5
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261 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

 Enjoy your girls’ night out and be grateful to your friends, sometimes simple things work better than anything else. And who knows they might surprise you with something amazing during the night….

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Sadly, we don’t get to choose what happens when we aren’t hosting the party. Just go and have fun with girls that love you!  I bet it will be a blast!!

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I hope they have planned something WAYYY special and you don’t know it!! Worst case scenario… you have a nice night out with the ladies. Maybe you could ask them if you could still incorporate a scavenger hunt into the plan to make things interesting (find a guy with a tattoo of lady, find someone with a kitchen utensil in their purse … etc). You could also plan something special for your bridesmaids as a thank you and incorporate one of your ideas then you get to enjoy both plans. Win Win!!

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper

I agree with the other bees what you should do is be grateful that your girls have graciously thrown a party for you!

As fro your ideas for a great night why not shelve them for when one of your friends is getting married or for an upcoming birthday or just a girls night out!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I don’t know the expectations around hens and stags because it’s uncommon where I live, so I don’t really understand why you are so upset. I mean, people are hosting a night out JUST FOR YOU. Isn’t that a wonderful thing?

But if you feel so strongly that the current plan is lame. Maybe you be brave and step in, then cancel the current plan, and you be the co-host of what you want to do…that way you’ll have it your way.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@gemms28:  This doesn’t change anything, really. Be grateful for the night out, and graciously thank the host.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@gemms28 I think it makes sense as to why you might feel a little left out. I’m certain it isn’t intentional on their part but that doesn’t mean you don’t get to feel a little let down either. You had anticipated something different based on the past parties thrown by the same group of ladies. If most of the ladies in this group are now married it’s possible they are entering different stages in their life and some of their new life demands have divided their time and altered their expectations. I’m sure you’ll be very gracious regardless and I’m also sure you’ll have an awesome time.

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