Thank you so much for making me feel like I’m not the most materialistic girl in the world!
Wow, oh wow.
I was just on the phone with Fiance for nearly 2 hours discussing this as I felt it couldn’t wait any longer. I went to the jeweler on Saturday (he was not there with me to clarify so he was not embarrassed in public) and he was watching football last night so this has been stewing with me for a few days.
I just don’t know what to think. He said his mom has tons of Diamonique stuff that has lasted years (that’s what the ring is) and he still doesn’t see the big deal. Jewelry is so overpriced in his opinion and his brother got engaged a few months ago so he is aware of how much diamonds cost. He said his brother was nuts for spending $5,000 on a ring for his girlfriend.
I agree that diamonds are overpriced and I asked why he didn’t discuss this with me before he went out and bought something pretending it was something else. I WOULD HAVE UNDERSTOOD! He said he wanted the proposal to be a surprise and quite honestly, he didn’t think I would find out the ring was CZ! He still doesn’t think the fact that he deceived me is that bad! He is traditional and thinks the guy should pick out the ring so that’s also why we didn’t shop for rings together.
He’s not the type of guy to lavish me with gifts, but he hasn’t been cheap really before this. He has bought me flowers just because and when we go out to dinner he usually pays. This is kind of out of character for him, but when he wants something he doesn’t hold back. I just have never noticed he’s been particularly cheap with me before.
I’m not sure if he’s being stubborn or if he really just doesn’t get it. He’s not willing to buy me a new ring, bottom line (why should he when his mom’s rings look fine?). He doesn’t want me to go out and buy my own ring either. He doesn’t want me to give him money toward a ring. He doesn’t get that this is important to me!
I feel like I’ve been talking in circles. I cannot seem to make him see my point of view! This ring is important to me! I never thought I would think that something like a ring would make me so mad at him. For the first time in 3 years I am seriously having doubts.
Do I call his friends and embarrass him? Part of me says no, part of me says yes, call him out! I don’t know if anyone can make him see how I feel.
This is supposed to be such a happy time. I told him this issue is not resolved and I am making no plans until we go out and get a ring together, then I hung up on him. I couldn’t take his nonsense.
I feel like dirt. All over a stupid ring.