Post # 1
I wanted a really small wedding (under 50), ended up being 110. Most are people I really want there (or he really wants there, fine), but we invited 20 people my parents want (who stress me out- it’s not that they wouldn’t be on my list, but I was SO HOPING that a lot of them would not make it. EVERY SINGLE ONE is coming. Ugh. Any suggestions on how to deal with it- besides putting them in the back of the room and when we make the rounds, keep it short. (which will upset my mother, and it sucks because my grandparents have to be at one of the tables, and I am kind of stuck putting them all together). It’s 20 percent of the people!
Post # 3
Ugh, I understand why you’re frustrated (and that is a huge percentage!) but unless they are crazy scene-makers, you won’t notice them. Honestly, I don’t remember seeing half the people at our wedding. Don’t stew over it now (I know, easier said than done). I think putting them toward the back of the room makes sense, and you’ll be keeping it short with EVERYONE when you make the rounds. Good luck!
Post # 4
You’ve lready invited them so there’s not much you can do. i think you should be polite (but that doesn’t mean you have to give them the best seats!) and cordial. They’re still coming to celebrate with your family, and are likely bringing you presents.
I think you’ll find that on your wedding day, you’ll be floating on a cloud and those 20 people won’t bother you much at all. (at least I hope so!)
Post # 5
I really didn’t get this until after the wedding, but you really don’t notice who’s there unless they’re making themselves noticed. In other words, I noticed the people sitting with me during the ceremony and at dinner, and the people I danced with at the reception. Everyone else I just got a few brief moments to thank during the receiving line and table visits. So you can just put them in the back, and maybe give a table to your parents where your grandparents can sit (we gave each of our parents a table and they got to sit whoever they wanted there within the seating limits). Good luck!