(Closed) Upset at the wording

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
971 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

His parents are throwing the party, it’s their son, so I guess I would expect his name to go first.

Like a wedding invitation, the woman’s name goes first because it’s traditionally the bride’s parents who “throw” the wedding, right?

So, if you want to look at it that way, it would make sense that his name go first on an event his parents are throwing. 

JMO – take it or leave it. 

PS – I think most moms think their son is a catch! Wink  I know my boys will be even though they’re only 6, 4 & 2 yo!!!! 

Post # 4
2790 posts
Sugar bee

I’m confused? Your mad because it says HisFirst HisLast and YourFirst YourLast instead of YourFirst HisLast? Can you better explain what it said?

Also, I think all moms think that their son is the best catch and that the girl should feel lucky to have her SO. I do feel lucky to have my SO because he is a great catch. Don’t you think your SO is?

Post # 6
37 posts

I’m with BanditGirl.  Why would you automatically assume that your name would go first on an invitation for a party that his family is throwing?

Post # 7
37 posts

Oh, I didn’t see your last post.  So you’re upset that she didn’t use your middle name?  Are you sure she knows your middle name?  Although, I guess it is a little strange, if she wanted to use middle names on the invitation, that she didn’t ask what yours is.

Post # 8
57 posts
Worker bee

Wait.  Are you upset because she left out your middle name but included his?  Maybe she did that cause she doesn’t know what it is, but that’s not a big deal.  I think because they are hosting they really can do whatever they want with the invites.  Sure she could’ve consulted with you, but it really wasn’t necessary in this situation.

Post # 9
2790 posts
Sugar bee

Then I think you are overreacting. It is strange they didn’t use your middle name but it is their decision to do so. It would be an automatic response for me to include my child’s name first on a party invitation for a party I am hosting.


Post # 10
264 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t think you are over-reacting…..she should have darn well asked what your middle name was, if she didn’t know it.  As well, certainly it is fine that she thinks her son is a catch….but she really shouldn’t say it constantly and make you feel like you are not.  It’s great that she is throwing this party, but common courtesy should still apply.

Post # 11
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

btw my hubbys family is greek so even for wedding invitations the guys name always goes first no matter who is paying or hosting so male name first isnt too unusual for some plus what the other ladies said above, if FI’s family is hosting then i would assume that his name goes first as well

edit: I’m upset that she put HisFirst HisMiddle HisLast and MyFirst MyLast.

 for real??? 

Post # 12
1920 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Even if she did miss your middle name and your name looks short compared to his I’m sure you will be the only person who notices. I just don’t think its really worth stressing over.

Post # 14
159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Maybe she didn’t know your middle name and thought it would be better to leave it off?


I would only be upset if it read: We’re celebrating the marriage of :Jonathan Matthew Smith to Lisa.  or didn’t have your name at all (just made these names up, it read better than his first middle and last)


That’s the only way I’d be upset, and feel like she wasn’t tryng to include me.

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