(Closed) Upset, Has anyone else had their….

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

 No, I haven’t. But I don’t really understand why you’re upset, sorry!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I understand that it sucks but you really can’t expect everyone to put their life on hold for your wedding. Have they been trying for kids for a while? You said it wasn’t an accident so obviously they are trying for children. I don’t think you can really dictate when people have children. That’s obviously more important for their lives than being in your wedding party. 

 

I understand being upset at first because it changes what you thought your wedding would be but try to see it from her point of view and don’t say anything to your Maid/Matron of Honor. Be happy for her, she’s pregnant and that is amazing. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@missclover: Honestly, I think youre acting a teensy bit selfish about this. Yes people do try and concieve at “inopportune” times, but I doubt they planned that his sperm and her egg would connect exactly 9 months before your big day. Just try and take it in stride and if necessary offer them both to step down. 

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

So are you mad that she has been pregnant for 9 months and about to deliver? I’m sure it’s upsetting that she may miss your wedding, but I’m not sure you are upset by just that. It sounds like you are upset that she got pregnant when she knew you had a wedding coming up.

ETA: Wait…your wedding date is for next year. If she is pregnant now, she is not going to be due during your date. Pregnancy is 9 months, not a year.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Miss Tattoo: Good point. Is that the wrong date? I didn’t even notice that at first.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It’s actually a good thing that they’re both in the wedding because if she has the baby and they can’t be there, the bridal party will stay even. It’s going too far to say she knew about your wedding months in advance, like she planned poorly? Your wedding is one day in her life, it’s more important that she and her husband have a baby during the time of year they want, when they can afford it etc. Deep breath. It will all be okay. And once you see that baby for the first time and know you’ll get to share a part in watching him grow and see your close friend as a mother, you won’t care anymore.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

It sucks, and speaking from a completely uninformed position I wouldn’t do this to my best friend.  But think of it from a joyous side.  Your anniversary and the baby’s bday will be close and it will be a wonderful time for all.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@missclover: Well your wedding date does say Sept 2012…and thats longer than 9 months away, which Im sure is why Miss Tattoo said that. 

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@missclover: I only say that because the dates in your profile don’t make sense.

Member Since
April 18, 2011 (4 months)

Marital Status
Engaged

Engagement Date
November 2011

Wedding Date
September 16, 2012

So did you get engaged Nov of 2010, your friend had to get pregnant right after that, and your wedding is Sept. 16 2011

Right?

If not, you aren’t even engaged yet and your wedding isn’t until next Sept. That’s why I’m confused.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

As many threads that have been on here about pregnant bridesmaid and how a wedding is not more important than the birth of a baby in the short time I’ve been a member, I find this post not real and trying to start drama.  Plus, Miss Tattoo is right.  The dates don’t make sense. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Sorry but speaking as a lady having fertility issues, I wouldn’t have put off being TTC for a wedding or really anything else!  There would have to be a REALLY good monetary or medical reason for me to put off TTC and a wedding just doesn’t even come close to fitting either of those reasons.  

If this is really your bff, then you should just be happy for them.  I have to agree with some of the other ladies:  the dates don’t make sense, there are tons of threads on this already, and the wedding just doesn’t top the birth of a baby.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I fyou’re upset that your friend won’t be able to make it to your wedding…thats somewhat understandable but still a wee bit selfish because…she’s having a baby…Not just playing hookie.

If you’re upset about her planning her pregnancy with your wedding: you need to see things from her point of view. 1. pregnancy is not something you can just put off for a friends wedding…this is their family getting started here. 2. she may not have planned it to be so close but maybe way off a week or two…

Honestly if you don’t think her pregnancy is as important as your wedding…maybe she shouldnt be in your wedding (because maybe you aren’t as great of friends as you thought ) NOT to be mean to you in any way but wha i’m saying is….her pregnancy is special too and you shouldnt be mad that she’s pregnant right now…evn if it does come in the way of your wedding….stuff happens! be happy for her and HOPE she can make it

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@missclover: well, if you are getting married in september of 2012…  that means she would need to get pregnant in january of 2012 to be due near your wedding date.  so either your date is wrong…  you can see into the future…  or your friend is about to have the longest pregnancy on record.

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