(Closed) upset it might be small amount of guests…

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3928 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Wow… I would be happy with the people that are coming. Everyone there will be looking at you coming down the aisle.

You would be really disappointed at my wedding. We are capping the guest count at 50.

Post # 4
445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I dont know me personally i only invited people that was important to me be there.. Only the people i wanted there so our wedding is small And actually if it makes you feel any better we invited 82 people and only 48 have RSVP back

I guess to me I ask why it is important that so many people you are not close with be at your wedding

Post # 5
7039 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Well, with only 100 people on your original guest list, 80-90 sounds about right for a positive response rate. As long as those people are the important ones to you, i’m not sure what the problem is? You’ll have a lot more time to actually talk to people with that number instead of a larger one, which will make the day more meaningful for everyone! A wedding isn’t about packing a grandstand or the most dramatic entrance. It’ll be about looking at your future husband at the end of the aisle as you walk in, not about how full the pews look.

Post # 6
560 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I am expecting only about 30 people at our ceremony, even though our guest list is 150. So I think your numbers are really good!

Post # 8
511 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m only going to answer to the whole large church vs. large guest list question: our church holds over 500 people, our guest list was less than 70…to which about 50 (which includes about 8 kids/babies) attended. So, no, people don’t just get huge churches to be able to fill seats.  I LOVED our ceremony because it was in my parish, presided over by a priest who knows me well (confirmed me) & has gotten to know my husband over the years, & because we were surrounded by those whom we love & who love & support us.  Try to concentrate on the positive…80-90% “yes” replies & loving he church you’ll be married in.  Good Luck!

Post # 10
2297 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We had only a dozen guests at our wedding.  (Pretty much everyone we invited came, but we didn’t invite many.)  What we did was basically to pass the word that people should all sit in the front row.  That way, there weren’t big empty spaces in front of people.

You could try something similar with yours.  If you have ushers, have them seat people from front to back.  Of just block off the back several rows.

Ultimately, what is important is to have the people you care about there, not the absolute numbers.

As for the ones who have 500 people there?  Well, either there have been 10 children in each family for generations, or they are inviting everyone they or their parents ever met.  In either event, they won’t have the chance to spend time with any of their guests, because they will be so busy saying hello to all of them.

Post # 14
91 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

i think it would be really RUDE to expect, or even ask or suggest that ANYONE come to your ceremony and not be invited to the reception also. with the exception of normal church members as some churches make the ceremony a public event where the members of the church are invited by default.

you will be too caught up in the moment, seeing your groom and wp waiting for you at the front to even notice the empty pews.

and no one will think it was strange to have such a large church. they will assume that you loved the church. and they will feel honored to be a guest.

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