(Closed) Upset mom

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Honey they sound like children……an your mum sunds hurt at your dad being well a little boy with his behaviour. Sit them down together just you and them no-one else and tell them you feel hurt and that they said they would help and now they are complaining about it and at this time in your life you can’t have people making you promises and then breaking them. Tell them you need help even if money is not involved to get things done for the wedding and that they are your mum and dad so you turned to them for help.

I am deeply sorry that this is happening to you because my parents have been so awesome. However my sister is being the trouble maker and has booked a trip to go away when it is my wedding coa she is jealous of me getting married first – which hurts me – but there is one or two in every family!

Update us to let everyone know how it goes.

Post # 4
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83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

p.s as long as u n ur hubby are there then nothing else matters your day will be awesome xx

Post # 6
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83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@alishaloo:  with the invites just inform them that you will not be able to put the announcement they want as it adds an extra fee and you are trying to cut costs wherever possible. I know when we did our save the date magnets we had the bare minimum as if you added extra lines the cost went up as did the size of the magnet whiich cost extra too. So we kept it simple. Our invites wont have our parents names either. My parents think that it is silly coz it cost extra lol – my dad put an announcement in the paper on behalf of them and my guys parents too. he paid for it and didnt ask them to coz they live away and dont have that kind of money to spend.

They should understand that they cant have a say as it is not their day – they shouldnt try and make you do things you guys cannot afford. If they were paying for it I can understand the input factor but because they are not (and yes they don’t have too) they need to not give advice unless asked.We are keeping a tight budget too. We have cut costs in many different ways. Our wedding will still be awesome though because it is all about our love and the two of us becoming a family. I am not getting flowers for the tables – too much money!!! they will have other decorations though.

it is funny about the sister thing coz my sister is competitive and I am not – so she is the one with the issue….I just have to accept the reality that she is definitely not attending the wedding.

Post # 8
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83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@alishaloo:  we will prob have around 50adults and a handful of children so we are having a small wedding – really close family and friends whom I grew up with or have made a huge impact on my life  and  my partners mates whom he went through training for the airforce with and whom he works with. Unfortunately I will offend ppl by not inviting them but I simply cannot afford to invite everyone I ever met – and thankfully my parents don’t expect me to either.

I think with the invites if you dont want it on there tell her and ask her why she insists it. I say get the smaller invitations to save money and to use that money for something else instead – i have cut down on a lot of things to save money – you have to do it otherwise it blow out the budget and you end up spending waaaaaaaaaay too much.

Make sure you get a beautiful dress that you love and feel comfortable in – if you feel confident on the day you will enjoy yourself – i think the dress is one area you can’t skimp in. I got my shoes off of the net – I think I told you that before so sorry for being a parrot.lol.

Your mum should understand if you dont want certain things ……… mums just go crazy with weddings lol

Post # 9
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1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Aww your mom won’t be over the divorce for awhile or until she meets someone new and your dad well we know that men sometimes don’t think with their heads. I am sorry you are being pulled different directions because of it. I would sit down with them separately and tell them how your feeling. Your mom may not know what she’s doing and your dad needs to hear that you want him to step up for you from you and not your mom. Divorce will be their filter for awhile 🙁

Post # 11
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2589 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

can you do “together with their families”  or “together with our families”?  that way no one is getting named, there can be no arguing over who is on what line and who goes first, etc. 

That generally suggests that several family members have contributed to the wedding. Just keeps things simple.

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