(Closed) Upset my fiancé picked out my ring…

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 31
1770 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I want to see a picture of this pretty ring!

Post # 32
903 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I had never gone to look at rings with Fiance but he did a decent job but I probably never would have picked this ring for myself. I love it because he picked it and because it has some features that you normally don’t see on a ring. He considered all the things I’ve mentioned over the years but got something completely different. I’m not big into jewelry though and I never really had a “dream” ring so I can’t really relate. 

Do what you want. You’re going to hear a LOT of opinions from people during wedding planning so take what they say with a grain of salt. 

Post # 33
1081 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014



If your other half ok with you to exchange for something you like, by all mean, go for it. It’s not your Future Mother-In-Law wearing the ring forever, it’s you.  If you don’t like it, the chance is it will grow.  Before we got engaged, there was a sales giong on and I rushed to pick a ring with my boyfriend (now DH). I choose the ring because of the price tag and thinking it’s just a simple ring and I will like it one day becuase I don’t hate it either.  


Guess what? The little details of the ring get into me as time goes by, thanks god my guy is ok with that, I ended up selling my old ring to a friend and bought one that fit everything that I like. I have no regret and still in love with my bridal set. 

Post # 34
3064 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

daisybee90:  me too I feel like this should be mandatory if you post about a ring you must provide pictures LOL!

Bee, go ahead and exhange it! Its a ring but one you have to wear. Why shouldnt you get one yo ulike ESPECIALLY if he is ok with it?


Post # 35
1128 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

hardcorenapkin:  totally uncalled for. take your bad attitude somewhere else


OP – it’s amazing that your Fiance is cool with you changing the ring. I’d go for it and don’t worry about what others think

Post # 36
36 posts

I agree with several of the other posters: there isn’t really a problem here.  You got a lovely and wonderful dream proposal, you Fiance is okay with you changing the ring, and you still get the ring you want!  This all sounds great to me! 🙂  I wouldn’t worry about what anyone else thinks.  Most people won’t even notice or care.  If anyone says anything, just explain that it was a beautiful ring but it wasn’t your taste.  And you’re in the clear!  Congratulations on your engagement! <3

Post # 37
4640 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Sounds like you and your fiance are okay with changing the ring. The only one who has a problem with it is his mother. To me, letting her dictate how things go in your relationship will be a disaster for years to come. This is just the ring, imagine when you have kids and you still let her run the show.

Post # 39
6917 posts
Busy Beekeeper

bertty:  Beautiful!! Congratulations on marrying the man you love and being happy with your ring!!

Post # 40
236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018 - Pantagis Renaissance

The new ring is lovely!! I’m glad you ended up getting what you like. You’ll have to wear it for the rest of your life after all. 

what did the old ring look like? I’m nosy. And curious! 😂

Post # 41
329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

SincerelyRanda:  I agree…now I’m curious on what the prior ring looked like.

Beautiful ring though. Glad it all worked out.  I was going to say who cares what anyone else thinks.  The ring should represent your taste, not his. So, I think it’s fine to want to exchange it. Don’t sweat it. (I went through something similar a few months ago — NOT FUN).

Post # 42
2968 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

bertty: I dont think you’re wrong at all and can totally understand how upset you must be, not only that he didn’t listen to you, but that now you also have to part with something that does have sentimental value- even if you don’t love it.

I wouldn’t worry too much about what people say and if they do, you tell them that the ring didn’t fit and you decided to get a new one you liked better. Your own Fiance doesn’t care that you want to change it, so if you both are fine with it and are happy with that decision, you should totally do it.

Are there elements of the ring that you like? Is the center stone one you would have picked? If so, maybe you can have the stone reset into a setting you do love that way you can still have some of the original ring.

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