(Closed) Upset that I seem to be the only one excited

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@cemetree:  I think a few of us can relate to this feeling.  That’s why there is the Weddingbee!  It’s very easy to talk to other brides that are doing something that we are and we can chat about it as much as we want!

Post # 4
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5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

@cemetree:  I really did love 99% of the planning process.  I didn’t necessarily need for others to feel the same excitement I did because I’m kind of OCD about organizing and planning!  lol  ~  Although we don’t know one another, I’m happy for you!  What do you want to share?  Do you need help with anything (via the web)? 

Post # 5
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6124 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Typically no noe is going to be mroe excited that you two.  I also had friends and family that just didn’t ask me anything about the wedding.  I didn’t even discuss anything with my own mother!  Well she said a very rude comment and I vowed not to talk to her again about weddings.  It was hurtful. 

I would have loved to talked someone’s ear off, but I just kept to myself if they didn’t ask.  It’s ok and normal.  No one cried for me when I told them I got engaged, like they do in the movies!

Post # 6
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2247 posts
Buzzing bee

I understand how you’re feeling, OP.  I always feel this way, but it was worse when I was still a year + away from my wedding date.  Honestly, it doesn’t seem “real” to others until you get closer to your date.  I think some people are expecting the worst (for the engagement to end) and then some don’t feel that it is necessary to plan so far ahead.  Either way, I was constantly frustrated.  Now that we’re three months out, more people are enthusiastic about it and see more interested.  Still, no one is near as interested in it as I am.  That’s why the Bee has been an awesome resource for me.  I can come here and talk wedding until my fingers fall off and no one will complain or get annoyed.

Post # 7
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1839 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@cemetree:  it may also be b/c your wedding date is pretty far away (mine is too and i felt similar to you but realized it’s over a year & most people aren’t really thinking about it yet.  my mom did start getting involved and looking at things with me, but other people are dealing with other things right now, which i can respect).  I guess I realized that everyone doesn’t have to be as excited about it as I am right now.

Post # 9
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2263 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

i had no excitement from the engagement to the actual day of… it’s different for every bride but yes, it’s usually only the couple or even the bride that feels excitment. I’m sorry it’s that way for you! Hopefully as time goes by you’ll be surrounded by more happiness from others. 

Post # 10
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2299 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I understand what you’re saying! My family and friends were the exact same way and the only other person that was as excited (or showed it) was my Fiance. My family moped around and ignored me until after the honeymoon and then made comments later how I didn’t seem excited at all. Now I’m dealing with the same exact thing about our baby that’s due this summer:(

Post # 11
Member
599 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@cemetree

I am feeling exactly the same. Everyone seems so busy with their own lives, that no one really bothers to ask how I’m going. No one seems to ask what I’ve got or be exicted about anything. It’s really getting me down too. Especially when I have put so much effort in to other peoples weddings and making sure they are and feel special.

 

I don’t know what to say to you other than you are definitely not alone! (hugs!)

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