(Closed) Upset that our ceremony is very similar

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Most religious ceremonies include identical elements, and in many cases, the couple has no control over that. While it is understandable to get upset, there isn’t anything that can be done most of the time.

Post # 4
423 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I wouldn’t get upset, no.  I guess that she should have checked with her husband to make sure it was ok with him before sharing the intentions, but honestly I probably would have made the same mistake as she did!  As for the rest of it, he can’t seriously be upset that you used “love is patient…”  – I swear I’ve heard that at half of the weddings I’ve been to! 

Any way, I really wouldn’t lose any sleep over it – I don’t think you did anything wrong, considering she told you to use the stuff.  I wouldn’t think to check with the other partner before using it, as I would assume that either she checked with him, or it wasn’t a big deal.



Post # 5
593 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I don’t know why he’d be upset. Catholic ceremonies in particular are done a certain way…every time. I’m pretty sure you just outlined my parent’s wedding exactly and it was 27 years ago.

Don’t worry about it.

EDIT And they’re already married? I could maybe understand him getting upset if you were getting married within a couple months of eachother. But come on now.

Post # 6
4 posts
  • Wedding: February 1998

Have you contacted a wedding planner? they are usually great with ideas to help you through this.

Post # 7
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@jj the dj, a wedding planner cannot help with that. The wedding is over so your post doesn’t apply to the OP’s situation.

Post # 8
2496 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I wouldn’t worry too much about it.  Maybe she should have checked with her hubby, but that was kinda her fault, not yours.  I’m not Catholic, but from what I understand, most Catholic ceremonies are fairly similar anyway.  I really wouldn’t worry about it, especially since you were under the impression that she and her hubby didn’t care if you made your ceremony similar to theirs.

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