Post # 46
I thought the point of a bridal party was to have the love and support of your nearest and dearest standing up next to you on the most important day of your relationship. The joining of your two families witnessed and encouraged by your loved ones. To actually say they would be “just bodies to fill space” unless they help you decorate is appalling. My loved ones are honored as contributors to who we are as individuals and as a couple. I promise you, not one of our bridesmaids or groomsmen pitched in with decorating, decision making, dress appointments, centerpiece construction or a single damn thing related to planning our wedding – yet they certainly were NOT just ‘filling space’. I’m sorry you feel that way about your friends.
Post # 47
If this was my sisters doing this. I’d ask them to step down. So far they have neither made the necessary purchases or functioned as a supportive members honored to be by your side.
Yes, it will damage your relationship with your sisters. But are you really happy with your relationship. In my family, blood ties are everything. But once people cross lines and abuse their relationships, they are out. I wouldn’t tolerate such behavior in my life. And no, I don’t think my sisters think my wedding is that important, but they know it matters to me and have acted as such.
Post # 48
yes they’re there to love and support you and part of that is to help you! They’re her sisters they should want to help her. I know I wanted to help my friends on their special day because I love and care for them. I suppose my word in wasn’t great and for that I apologize I obviously dont think that’s all they’re there for. but your bridesmaids are your team and teams should support each other and base on her comments she’s not getting that at all from her sisters. I couldn’t imaging being in someone’s wedding party and not helping them or caring about the wedding. She deserves support from her bridesmaids be it emotional or helping with decisions or just being excited with her. that’s what they’re there for. why would you have bridesmaids who don’t care to be there for you. It makes no sense to me.
Post # 49
You have hit it in the head, I was just giving examples of how my sisters have been acting and are not there to support me let alone even care about the situation.
I understand your wedding will never matter as much to someone else as it does to you, but having people who don’t support you or care to even talk about it, it is not fun and it makes you feel hurt and like you said, then why even have a bridesmaids if they aren’t suppose to support you.
I am not asking for much just people who I ask to support me be there and talk every once in a while and yeah help with things everyonce in a while. If these weren’t sisters, but friends acting like this, I think everyone would agree their actions are rude.
I plan to speak to both of my sisters, tell them how I feel and if they can’t see how their actions are rude and disrespectful, I will make the decision whether or not they should stand.
Post # 50
Thanks for comment. I agree with what you said, they are not supportive in any way and it hurts that they don’t see that. It would be one thing if they were a lot younger, but a senior and junior in college and one is engaged, I would think they would want the same respect.