- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
~1 month lurker, first time poster here. I know I have a lot more questions to go, but I have to get this off my chest / get some outside opinion.
A bit of background: Fiance has two younger borthers, B, 29, and J, 27. B is single, and has always lived at home. He does not have a car or driver’s license. Yes, that means that Future Mother-In-Law or Future Father-In-Law always drive him to/from work. Also, Future Mother-In-Law retired about 2 years ago, and they got a dog a few months later. They have never left the dog alone for more than a few hours, and have never kenneled the dog. And the family lives 6 hours away.
I found out over the weekend that Future Father-In-Law told Fiance that they would probably be arriving on Sat morning and leaving on Monday morning (for our Sun wedding). They can’t stay any longer because someone needs to be home to take B to work. Also, B might not be coming to the wedding at all because someone needs to stay with the dog — “she might get upset if we kennel her for the weekend.”
My parents want to invite Future In-Laws down for a weekend this summer so that they can spend some time together and Future In-Laws can see the area some more. They are more than welcome to bring the dog, and there would be no cost to them as they could stay at my parent’s house. Fiance just told me they would probably decline, since B won’t know his work schedule ahead of time, and will need a ride to/from work.
For the record, Future In-Laws have come to visit us once (a Sat night to Sun morning kind of visit) since we moved here 4 years ago. They were able to find a hotel that allowed dogs, and this was when B was out of work.
I am internally furious with the family for all of this. I have always had a bit of issue with how Future In-Laws work their lives around both the dog and B. They have not had a vacation at all in the 2 years since they got the dog. They rearrange plans if B needs to go somewhere. They have 2 cars, and let other brother J drive one when he’s home to visit (he lives in a city with good public transportation so he doesn’t need to own a car personally), so I know that’s not an issue.
Oh, and let’s add the fact that I would be good money that Fiance will be the only one of their children that will ever get married. Which means I am their best bet at grandchildren…
Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely LOVE my Future In-Laws, I just think their priorities in all this are a little odd.
Should I say something to Fiance or FILs? What? Or am I overreacting?