Post # 1
Ok here’s the deal, I just e-mailed my planner because we are meeting with her next Sunday and I needed to know where and what time. We’re supposed to meet with the florist, photographer and DJ, or so I thought. She’s asked me a couple times if I "really need to meet the dj since everything can be done on the phone or through e-mail." I’ve told her both times that I would rather meet the DJ just so I know what he’s like before we ok him for the wedding. So I get this e-mail back from her with the time and place and asking me if I really am sure if I need to meet with the DJ because "most brides don’t feel the need to do that." Well I’m not most brides. I’m a bit miffed because she also has asked me a few times to come up during the week because it’s more convineient for her, everytime she’s asked me this I’ve reminded her that FH works at 4 in the morning every week day and we live over an hour and a half from the venue and where she lives, not to mention that it’s So Cal so we would most likely hit traffic. I’m just a little annoyed that I’m constantly having to repeat myself, not to mention that most of this is being done over e-mail so she can refer back to it.
When I told my Mom that this was annoying me she said, "Just be nice, stop being such a bridezilla." Am I out of line being annoyed by all of this?
Post # 3
why is it that moms always throw out the ‘bridezilla’ thing? everytime I ask my mom to do anything (ie taste cake since the wedding is 3000 miles away from where I live or not to wear a FUSHIA dress to the navy blue and pewter wedding) she calls me a bridezilla. AHHHH!!!!! Mothers…But, this is the great thing about this board. You can vent about mom and coordinator.
So anyway (sorry to rant mid post), I think that you are PAYING this damn coordinator so it is her JOB to be more flexible. Why is it such a big deal that you want to meet with the DJ? If anything, I would consider it a red-flag that she keeps trying to blow the meeting off. I live in SoCal so I definitely understand the traffic thing…if I can only meet on Saturday, and Ive already told you that 3-4 times, why do you keep trying to schedule meetings on Wednesday? Put your foot down…she isnt doing this as a favor to you, and she’s not your aunt. I say, be more demanding, not less.
Post # 4
I don’t think you’re being Bridezilla-ish at all either. I would want to meet with the DJ too…why is that such a hardship for her to "coordinate"? She is working for you, you are paying for her to do so, she should be accommodating to you & your wishes.
Is there any chance you could find another coordinator at this point or would that be too much of a hassle? I would let her know in a nice but FIRM way that you are not too happy with her lack of service at this point and that she needs to work with you & your FI’s schedule if she wants to continue being your coordinator.
Post # 5
I agree with happilywaiting. You’ve hired her to co-ordinate your wedding- what’s her problem? She’s not delivering the service you expected & I really think you should discuss this with her. It’s not right for her to go up against your wishes. I would suggest just talking to her… I always have a 3 strikes you’re our policy! If she doesn’t shape up then maybe (if possible) get a new co-ordinator or go with someone else from her firm?