(Closed) Upset with sister…. am I thinking into this too much?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@allabouteve:  At the end of the day I guess I’m wearing it so I don’t relly care about anyones opinion

This.  Your big day is more important to you than it is to anyone else, and rightfully so.  Adjust your expecations of everyone, friends, family, etc.  Focus on you and your Fiance and making this day what’s best for you both.  Don’t sweat the small stuff.  If you think she is bummed out, minimize wedding talk around her – not only will you mitigate the risk of creating jealousy and resentment on her part, but you will protect yourself from getting hurt by said jealousy and resentment.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

You’re overthinking it. Smile

What she said doesn’t sound bad at all.  

That’s pretty nice!!  How much did it cost??

is way better than

Oh.  How much did you pay for that thing?

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@GroovyHippieChick:  Agreed.  OP – did your sis respond via text or email.  Remember, there is no inflection or tone in that kind of communication so sometimes the reader interprets it the wrong way.

Post # 7
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3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yeah seems like a pretty benign statement. I doubt she meant anything by it. Congrats on finding your dress!

Post # 8
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Worker bee

I agree with Jemma. It’s really easy to misinterpret something when it is written!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think the PPs have got it.  I don’t think your sister meant anything harsh by her reaction.  The first thing my sister asked me after I sent her dress pictures was how much it cost.  Just take it as a sister hoping you get what you want without having to mortgage your not-yet-born first child.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Sisters are bums.  I love my two sisters to the moon and back but they’re people like anyone else and sometimes have a blind spot when it comes to our feelings.  

I showed a picture of my current dream dress to my two sisters yesterday, and one of them said it was aweful and too “Miss Georgia” (whatever that means), and the other one just flat out said it was a terrible choice. *sigh*

You’d think since i told them I was in love with it they’d be a bit more supportive? But no! They’re thinking about what kind of dress they would want, not what we want. So you just gotta shrug it off! 

Does  your dress make you happy? Do you love it? THEN ROCK IT BABY!

Post # 11
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Helper bee

I’m sure that if she really disliked the dress, she would tell you her opinion honestly. If it was a text, I’d honestly probably have read it as understatement (like “not too shabby!” to mean that it looks good). I think you’re getting too worried – her comment was positive, even if it wasn’t very carefully edited or anything. She probably hasn’t been rehearsing how she would react to a picture of your wedding dress, so I wouldn’t worry if the first thing that came out of her mouth/the first text she sent wasn’t something you’d want to put in a scrapbook. 

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