Post # 1
I got engaged a few months back, and my sister who is 3 years older was happy for me, but I knew she was a little bummed about me getting engaged before her. Anyway I bought my wedding gown today, and I sent her a photo of it and I thought she would be all excited, but all she said was “thats pretty nice, how much did it cost”.
I was just so excited about the whole thing and now I’m just blah…. when someone says “pretty nice” is this a way of saying they don’t like it?
At the end of the day I guess I’m wearing it so I don’t relly care about anyones opinion, however I don’t want to look boring….
Sorry for rant 🙁
Post # 3
@allabouteve: At the end of the day I guess I’m wearing it so I don’t relly care about anyones opinion
This. Your big day is more important to you than it is to anyone else, and rightfully so. Adjust your expecations of everyone, friends, family, etc. Focus on you and your Fiance and making this day what’s best for you both. Don’t sweat the small stuff. If you think she is bummed out, minimize wedding talk around her – not only will you mitigate the risk of creating jealousy and resentment on her part, but you will protect yourself from getting hurt by said jealousy and resentment.
Post # 4
You’re overthinking it.
What she said doesn’t sound bad at all.
That’s pretty nice!! How much did it cost??
is way better than
Oh. How much did you pay for that thing?
Post # 5
@GroovyHippieChick: Agreed. OP – did your sis respond via text or email. Remember, there is no inflection or tone in that kind of communication so sometimes the reader interprets it the wrong way.
Post # 6
Yeah I thought I was reading into into too much… I guess not everyone is supposed to be as excited about it as me 😛
Just via text, I haven’t been talking to her about much of the wedding because she just didn’t seem interested tbh. So I thought I’ld just send her an update.
Thanks bees 🙂
Post # 7
Yeah seems like a pretty benign statement. I doubt she meant anything by it. Congrats on finding your dress!
Post # 8
I agree with Jemma. It’s really easy to misinterpret something when it is written!
Post # 9
I think the PPs have got it. I don’t think your sister meant anything harsh by her reaction. The first thing my sister asked me after I sent her dress pictures was how much it cost. Just take it as a sister hoping you get what you want without having to mortgage your not-yet-born first child.
Post # 10
Sisters are bums. I love my two sisters to the moon and back but they’re people like anyone else and sometimes have a blind spot when it comes to our feelings.
I showed a picture of my current dream dress to my two sisters yesterday, and one of them said it was aweful and too “Miss Georgia” (whatever that means), and the other one just flat out said it was a terrible choice. *sigh*
You’d think since i told them I was in love with it they’d be a bit more supportive? But no! They’re thinking about what kind of dress they would want, not what we want. So you just gotta shrug it off!
Does your dress make you happy? Do you love it? THEN ROCK IT BABY!
Post # 11
I’m sure that if she really disliked the dress, she would tell you her opinion honestly. If it was a text, I’d honestly probably have read it as understatement (like “not too shabby!” to mean that it looks good). I think you’re getting too worried – her comment was positive, even if it wasn’t very carefully edited or anything. She probably hasn’t been rehearsing how she would react to a picture of your wedding dress, so I wouldn’t worry if the first thing that came out of her mouth/the first text she sent wasn’t something you’d want to put in a scrapbook.