(Closed) upsetting 20 week ultrasound. Reassurance Needed!

posted 7 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
941 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Mrs.H2B:  we are going to do testing as well, but you should really talk to your dr. about the materniT21 test.

It’s supposed to only be available to high risk patients (35 years +, or abnormal screens such as yours)

It’s a non invasive blood test that has a very high accuracy rate in comparision to the tri-screen. Do some google research on it and find out if it’s offered anywhere near you.  Keeping you in my thoughts, I’m very nervous about my screenings, but like you, I opted to know.

Post # 5
9129 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

I’m surprised they aren’t doing an amnio or chorionic villi testing at this point so you can know for sure and prepare.  Either way, it may be a good idea to be aware of the resources for parents of children with Down’s for just in case.  Hopefully you won’t need any of the information but it’s there if you do.  http://www.cdss.ca/services.html

Post # 6
1430 posts
Bumble bee

@Mrs.H2B:  I know this news can be so upsetting Im sorry. But 1/43 means you have less have a 0.02% chance of downs. That is very low! Sure it is higher than other women but still nothing to worry about yet. My friend had an even greater chance than you according to her doctors and she had a beautiful healthy boy. Hope the blood tests give you some reassurance! 

Post # 7
941 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Mrs.H2B:  from the research I’ve done, if you contact sequenom with billing issues because of insurance, they won’t charge you over $240 for the procedure. But they will battle with the insurance company which usually doesn’t make a difference. I’ve also read this on many different baby boards, so if it’s important, I wouldn’t totally rule it out. 

Post # 8
12244 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

One of the February Mamas had a heightened risk of Downs! I can’t remember who, though… But she got genetic testing done, and baby is fine and normal! Just scary measureents.

Post # 11
127 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Mrs.H2B:  Awww, I’m sorry that you had upsetting news. But I agree with a previous poster with the fact that is now .2% chance. I hope everything turns out for you and baby takes after daddy in the height department, but like you said and I have no doubt you both will be wonderful parents regardless of what is to come. I was hesitant about the testing too, I think it adds a lot of unnecessary stress!! I see that you were at the IWK, were so close!!! FX for your blood results coming back with super news.

Post # 12
6934 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018

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@Mrs.H2B:  If all the Dr. is basing this on is measurements, what if you ovulated later and they got your EDD wrong? I think without testing, there is not that much evidence to be worried. Your baby looks soooo beautiful, and I am sure you would be amazing parents no matter what. HUGS!

Post # 13
11324 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Your little one is adorable!! And he or she will be perfect, downs or not. But even so, 1/43 is still a SMALL chance. If you were told your baby had a 42/43 chance of having downs, you’d be absolutely sure that s/he had it, right? So why does 1/43 seem like nothing when you’re hoping for it, and everything when you’re not. 

Post # 14
799 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Mrs.H2B:  I dont have a personal experience but I know someone who was told their child had every single marker for downs. He is a happy, healhy, perfectly normal, smarter than a whip developed 5 year old now. 

ETA: and if s/he does have downs, i bet s/he will be perfect anyways (sorry didnt read if you knew gender yet or not)

Post # 15
49 posts
  • Wedding: July 2014

My daughter’s 20 week ultrasound scared the crap out of us, no joke. She also had a “soft marker” for down syndrome, and for a lot of other scary things as well. Instead of having two arteries in her umbilical cord and one vein, she only had one artery and one vein. This could have meant she would have a missing kidney or kidney defects, heart defects, down syndrome, and scariest of all, a higher risk of still birth, among a lot of other things. I was scared to death.

We went for a higher-level ultrasound after that, and then I think by the end of my pregnancy I had probably eight or nine ultrasounds total. They followed her really closely because of the single artery as well as the fact that I developed gestational diabetes, so my placenta could deteriorate early. This plus a weird cord would mean a higher risk of cord accidents and other complications. I was a wreck pretty much from the day of my anatomy scan until the minute my daughter was born. It wasn’t a fun way to spend my pregnancy, but every time I went for another ultrasound, non-stress test, or whatever, I got the slightest bit of relief. Each day my daughter made it in spite of whatever odds were against her with the umbilical cord problems felt like a victory, and it got me through the longest months of my life.

In retrospect, I shouldn’t have worried so much. None of the worrying did me or my daughter any good. Nothing I thought about or did could have changed the outcome. She was born healthy and perfect. They checked her heart and kidneys and she was fine. Now she’s 19 months old and so smart and sweet and just amazing. It’s been the best year and a half of my life having her here. And even if she had down syndrome or other issues, while things would be different and more difficult, I’m sure I could say the same thing, because there’s nothing better than being a mom. <3

Six days old!

Her Christmas picture this year ๐Ÿ™‚

Anyway, best of luck with the rest of your pregnancy. Try to enjoy it in spite of your concerns. Odds are in your favor that everything will turn out perfectly! I hope you update us when your baby arrives!

Post # 16
480 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am very sorry you have received this stressful news ๐Ÿ™  Not knowing must be very difficult. 

I just wanted to give you a link to a blog, called Enjoying the Simple Things! Here is a link to her youngest daughter’s birth story : http://www.kellehampton.com/2010/01/nella-cordelia-birth-story.html

Kelle and her family found out, at birth, that her daughter had Down’s Syndrome.  Her birth story is very emotional, and a stunning read.  She has also chronicled the challenges (and triumphs!) of living with a child with Down’s syndrome!  I hope that her story can provide you with some comfort, as her family is very happy and thriving ๐Ÿ™‚

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