(Closed) upsetting 20 week ultrasound. Reassurance Needed!

posted 7 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 62
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Buzzing bee

Thinking of you & wishing you all the very best x

Post # 63
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

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@Mrs.H2B:  It’s so hard not to let a situation like this get to you, of course you’ll love your baby DS or not, but it’s scary just the same. I hope you get the answers you’re looking for when you get your testing done next month! Sending you positive thoughts.

Post # 64
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Hey, glad to see the update. Honestly, I think the test will be well worth it. Non-invasive prenatal screening isn’t perfect, but it’s pretty good. 

And I think there is a huge benefit to knowing one way or another, prior to birth. First, it lets you stop stressing and worrying about not knowing.

If the test is negative you can stop worrying about it (false negatives happen, but very rarely).

If the test is positive you have the opportunity to prepare yourself and your family. You’ve already done some research, but you’d probably do more. One of the most important things is the grief process that all couples go through when they received a diagnosis like Down syndorme. You grieve  for the loss of some of the dreams you had for your child. If you know about the diagnosis during the pregnancy, you can go through this process before the baby is born so that the birth can be the joyful occasion that it should be. Family and friends can also learn about the diagnosis so that the birth announcements can focus on all the great things of having a baby and not be awkward or sad.

I really think that, in this situation, knowledge is power. And it can be of great benefit to you and your baby. Let us know how things turn out!

Post # 65
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

First I want to say, congrats on your pregnancy! 

I can completely understand why you would be worried, but I hope you can take things a day at a time and not stress too much. Their measurements could be off, who knows! At one point during my pregnancy my son was measuring a week or two behind my given due date, a week before givin birth they told me that he was approx 6 1/2lbs give or take a pound…so biggest of 7 1/2lbs. He was born at 8lbs 13oz!!! Needless to say, they were slightly off. 

Post # 66
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

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@JenGirl:  + 1, very well said.

 

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@Mrs.H2B:  You are in my thoughts and prayers. I am hoping that whatever the outcome, your family will have peace and joy.

Post # 67
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We opted not to go for screenings for this reason! It can be stressful and upsetting. I have some good news for you though! My friend’s baby tested positive for downs syndrome as well; the baby had fluid around its neck and everything…she was worried her entire pregnancy. Well, her baby boy came out COMPLETELY healthy this past October! Your baby looks absolutely adorable; downs or not, I know you will love him/her completely and they will be perfect 🙂 Good luck finding peace; I hope you get some good news back from bloodwork!

Post # 68
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

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@Mrs.H2B:  I hope these next few weeks fly by for you! I would do the same in your situation. Wishing you and your sweet little one the best!

Post # 69
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Two close relatives of mine had a similar experience:

My first cousin (girl) was tested multiple times and the parents were told she was very likely going to have down syndrome.  They considered abortion but did end up having her, and she was 100% fine.  She actually ended up being valedictorian the year she graduated..granted this was 30 years ago.

Also, my nephew was suppose to have kidney issues based on his ultrasounds, but again he was born with no issues.

Hope everything turns out ok for you!

Post # 70
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Seems like from what all the Bees have said that the odds are in your favour. It will be very difficult not to worry abt it still but try to at least come to term with your feelings. Worrying won’t do you or the baby (or the baby’s daddy!) any good.

Post # 72
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

bumping to see the update in 12 days! best of luck!!

Post # 73
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@Mrs.H2B:  I am sorry that you are going through this difficult time, but I read yout posts, and all I could think was “wow, those two are amazing parents”. You and your DH are already showing yourselves as loving, responsible parents to your little one who isn’t even here yet! I think it is good that you are trying to get a definitive answer about the possible down’s syndrome. Its best to be prepared, and you have every right to your feelings about the baby having a genetic disorder. You will need time to process those feelings and prepare for the specific needs of your little one, and your needs as the parents of special needs child.

FWIW, I work in health care. I know from experience that health care providers are encouraged to prepare patients for the worst possible outcomes. It is better for people to be ready for a poor diagnosis/prognosis than to be lead to believe everything is okay just to be devestated later. Example: 15 years ago my daughter’s aunt found a lump in her breast. She was lead to believe during the diagnostics that it was most likely just a cyst or some other benign issue and she would be fine. It turned out to be malignant. She was not prepared for that diagnosis at all. Thankfully, 15 years later she is completely cancer free.

Congrats on your little one OP! I’m looking forward to your update and hoping it is the best of news!

 

Post # 74
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@Mrs.H2B:  When I was in university there was a girl in my class whose son tested positive for Down syndrome. He was born without it! This story is one of the reasons I won’t do genetic testing.

Post # 75
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Commenting to follow.

i hope this test provides piece of mind for you and your husband. I am hoping for the best outcome 🙂

Post # 76
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We also had soft markers for Down Syndrome. I had a healthy, typical baby girl last May. Good luck. Its very scary!

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