(Closed) Urgent: Invitations Questions (Destination wedding in 5 months)

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
2691 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

1. No, seems like a waste of money to me.

2. I would address it to her and husband, put his name on as well if you know it. Or Mr. and Mrs. X Couple.

3. Don’t have any experience with this yet, but I have seen lots of stories of RSVP’s not getting sent back/not having names/ect. The more ways to give someone to RSVP the better IMO.

4. I would say at least 8 months. That will give people adequate time to request time off from work, gather the funds, make house sitting arangements, ect.

5. No, again, waste of money. I would have a conversation with them though, something along the lines of, “we would love to invite you to our wedding but we were afraid you financial situation wouldn’t allow you to celebrate with us, is this true?” before making that decision.

6. If you think your guests would be cool with that, then do it! Any way to save some cash.

Post # 3
2471 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017


1. Maybe- I would check with them to see if they still couldn’t come, because you’re planning to send out invitations soon and would love to invite them.  Plans change, so they may be able to now.

2. Put both of their names (and the names of any kids if necessarily).  “And family” can be really stressful if there are kids or other dependents living with them.

3. Unknown

4. Depends on location.  For international travel, I would say 9 months, because some people may need to get their passport or need extra time to save.  For domestic destination, maybe 6 months.  If you’re wedding date is correct (April 2015) I would get them out ASAP.

5. Invite who you would like to be there, regardless of their financial situation.

6. I personally like physical invitations, but if your guests would be ok with that, I don’t see the problem.  You could also e-mail them an invitation.

Post # 5
731 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

MuseForever:  Ya I think they are pretty much right but I will say as for the RSVP we did/ are doing it by a google form and I am terrified lol 


So far it has been ok but we have only tested it with a few people. 

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