Post # 1
I really need help here. I’ve been extremely busy with family illnesses and work, and haven’t worked on the wedding at all in the last couple of months. I don’t have bridesmaids dresses yet or invitations selected 🙁
Please answer the following questions for me:
1) If after the sending the Save the Dates, people have told me they won’t be attending, should I still send out an invitation to them?
2) If you are only friends with the wife, should the envelope be addressed to the husband’s last name or to her “and family” or “and husband”?
3) Did any of you ask guests to RSVP at an email address? If so, how did it work out?
4) For destination weddings. How in advance should the invitations be sent out?
5) Should you send invitations to people (very close friends) who you know won’t go (maybe because of money)?
6) Would it be ok to invite very close family/friends verbally to save in invitations? (I feel like a lot of the international folks would consider themselves invited with an email/phone call).
Post # 2
1. No, seems like a waste of money to me.
2. I would address it to her and husband, put his name on as well if you know it. Or Mr. and Mrs. X Couple.
3. Don’t have any experience with this yet, but I have seen lots of stories of RSVP’s not getting sent back/not having names/ect. The more ways to give someone to RSVP the better IMO.
4. I would say at least 8 months. That will give people adequate time to request time off from work, gather the funds, make house sitting arangements, ect.
5. No, again, waste of money. I would have a conversation with them though, something along the lines of, “we would love to invite you to our wedding but we were afraid you financial situation wouldn’t allow you to celebrate with us, is this true?” before making that decision.
6. If you think your guests would be cool with that, then do it! Any way to save some cash.
Post # 3
1. Maybe- I would check with them to see if they still couldn’t come, because you’re planning to send out invitations soon and would love to invite them. Plans change, so they may be able to now.
2. Put both of their names (and the names of any kids if necessarily). “And family” can be really stressful if there are kids or other dependents living with them.
4. Depends on location. For international travel, I would say 9 months, because some people may need to get their passport or need extra time to save. For domestic destination, maybe 6 months. If you’re wedding date is correct (April 2015) I would get them out ASAP.
5. Invite who you would like to be there, regardless of their financial situation.
6. I personally like physical invitations, but if your guests would be ok with that, I don’t see the problem. You could also e-mail them an invitation.
Post # 4
MissComicBook: Apple_Blossom: So, I am terribly late. I just put down a deposit to design/order the invitations and I should be getting them in January when I’ll ship them right away. I feel a little bit better (after beating myself up for totally dropping the ball with this!!) because the STD went out in September. I feel like at this point everyone who NEEDS to know knows. Hopefully at least…
I’ve started getting informal RSVPs (FB messages) and it feels so good. I mean I knew I was having a wedding but besides close family and us, it is good to know that even if no one else showed up, a few friends will be there! lol
Post # 5
MuseForever: Ya I think they are pretty much right but I will say as for the RSVP we did/ are doing it by a google form and I am terrified lol
So far it has been ok but we have only tested it with a few people.