Urgent! Need your opinion ladies!

posted 8 months ago in Proposals
  • poll: What should I do???
    Same setting, 4 C's - return it after I get home. : (2 votes)
    11 %
    Take chances on receiving it in time. : (16 votes)
    89 %
  • Post # 2
    169 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    I would get a cheap silver and CZ ring that looks similar and keep it as a backup in case the official ring doesn’t arrive! Good luck 🙂

    Post # 3
    1798 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    It depends on who your partner is. For me in this situation I would have loved some kind of joke ring (a gummy ring or something) but I know not everyone would appreciate that. Otherwise a cheap silver ring with cz sounds good.

    Post # 4
    6903 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2019

    sirdowski :  I vote cheap stand in and wait and hope the real ring turns up in time!

    Post # 5
    364 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    Oh man. May I ask if this is a custom order or a simple setting? You might could cancel it and try Blue Nile or Brilliant Earth and get it sent to you sooner. I wouldn’t go out and buy an extra “real” ring, especially while traveling. Think of how tough it will be for her to return it afterwards. If anything I would get a CZ or moissanite ring she can keep if it doesn’t come in time, rather than one you’l be giving her but have to immediately take back. 

    Post # 6
    3620 posts
    Sugar bee

    I would not spend a significant amount of money on a prop ring you are just going to return.  What happens if it gets lost or damaged while on your trip, before you have had a chance to insure it?  Also, on a personal level, I’d be upset that my boyfriend wasted money, even if the intent is to return it and get it back.

    I would have zero problems being proposed to without a ring or being shown a photo of it.  To me, the ring is the least important part of the actual proposal and I have zero problems waiting, but you need to figure out if your girlfriend would feel the same.  Most people on this board seem fond of cheap stand-ins for things vs. No ring at all, so I suppose if you felt inclined to have some ring, I would do that.

    Post # 7
    2935 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 1996

    What about buy an inexpensive but pretty ring locally once you get to Aruba and propose with that? Then it will be a fun souvenir of the vacation she can wear on the other hand or wherever once her special ring arrives.

    Post # 8
    3267 posts
    Sugar bee

    Jijitattoo :  I really like this idea. That way she’d have a really special reminder of the place where you proposed. I wouldn’t buy another ring from Kay’s or wherever. It’ll be confusing when she gets the JA ring.

    Just explain to her when you propose her ring didn’t arrive in time, but you couldn’t wait another moment to ask her to spend her life with you.

    Post # 9
    906 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    I definitely wouldn’t buy and travel with an expensive ring I was just going to return. What if something happened to it? What if she loves it!? I agree with the other bees- buy a stand-in that she can use again when you’re traveling in the future in case the real ring doesn’t arrive in time. And not something super flashy like a giant CZ that calls attention, either. Love the idea of a ring pop or something that’s clearly not THE ring, so there’s not even a moment of confusion where she’s like…this is my forever ring. 

    Fingers crossed for you that the ring gets there before you depart!

    Post # 10
    187 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2019

    sirdowski :  Defintely go with the advice from mstobe! Get a cheaper, similar version to propose with in the event is doesn’t arrive on time. That way she gets to see what it will look like, and you wont have to worry about returning it. PLUS, since you are proposing while away, if anything happens to the ring (such as getting lost in the ocean or misplaced or worse, stolen!) it’s not the real expensive one!

    This is what my fiance did for me when he proposed to me in Mexico! GOOD LUCK!

    Post # 11
    782 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    I really like the idea of a cheap standin that you purchase in Aruba! She’ll love the memories.

    Post # 12
    10853 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    Propose in Aruba either way. I like the idea of doing it with a local, inexpensive ring or no ring at all. I kind of like how it puts the emphasis on the proposal, not the ring. Then, when you get home, you can give her the ring, which will be no less special or exciting. 

    But if you tell JA how time sensitive this is, there is a good chance it may get there. Can you pay to rush ship? 

    Post # 13
    6233 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2016

    I like either of these Bees’ ideas: sensoda :   Jijitattoo :  

    I definitely wouldn’t buy and bring another expensive ring to Aruba. Too much risk! My husband and I are very goofy so if it were for me, I’d love being proposed to with a ring pop or something similar 🙂 But the other idea of getting something in Aruba that way your fiance has a nice memento of the trip and the proposal is a great idea too! 

    Post # 14
    1636 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    Do not go to a jeweler like Kay or Zales and buy a similar ring. You’ll be out more money in the meantime and may run into trouble returning it (beware of the fine print). My husband proposed with a stand in that the jeweler sent him when they realized they would be later than what they’d promised. I would go that route, where you’ll just have to send the stand in back to get the real ring from JA, or I would buy a cheap stand in (like CZ).

    Post # 15
    1179 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    I’m on team Aruba ring!  I just think there’s something about it that is so special and memorable and just a lil’ bit quirky.

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