(Closed) URGENT! Please read me! (PLEASE MOVE TO PREGNANCY BOARD!)

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

You’re getting ahead of yourself.  Head thee to a doctor so you can confirm before you freak everybody out.

Post # 5
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Newbee

Positive is positive; it’s very very rare to have a false positive. Honestly, I’m confused on how you are surprised… you stopped BC, and you still had unprotected sex. Either way, I guess just straight up tell them. They are going to find out anyway. I’m sorry I’m not much help!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Take a long, deep breath.  Sit down and slow down.  First, it’s okay to keep this to yourself for now.  See the doctor.  Spend some time talking with your Fiance.  You don’t have to figure everything out right now.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Moved to the pregnancy board for you. 

I say you take another test, just to confirm for yourself.  Then, schedule yourself an appointment with your OB.  Discuss with your Fiance about what you would like to do about the whole situation.  You don’t have to tell anyone when you see those lines pop up.  Wait, let it all sink it, you two discuss, and make sure it’s a viable pregnancy before you worry about what others think about it.  

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

False positives are very rare. But you should definitely call your doctor and book an appointment ASAP. 

First talk to your Fiance. He will probably settle you down and then as a couple you can decide how and when to tell your parents.

You should also start taking prenatal vitamins ASAP. 🙂

Good luck with everything. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@Miss Grape:  My first child was a surprise/ not so surprised!  He’s a beautiful, happy, beloved 11 yr old now.  At first, my family raised some eyebrows and had some concerns.  I got some unsolicted, not-so-nice advice… but I carried on with my life, happy as could be, and here we are all these years later.  Everyone with the worries and advice has loved and adored him all this time.  It only takes a short while for them to adjust to the news…

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’d talk to your Fiance and work out a plan before telling your parents. Figure out if you are going to keep it, how you are going to support yourselves, and how you will deal with school. If it were me, I’d take winter session to try to finish early, set up a job forafter the baby is born, and push the wedding up. As my mom once told me, most pregnancies are unplanned, you or your parents might be upset at the circumstances, buts it is always better once the situation is taken care of/the baby is here.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

@Lillindy:  This exactly!

Deep breaths. Take another test and have a conversation with your Fiance. No need to bring the family into it just yet. I would wait until you go to the doctor to see just how far along you are and like a pp mentioned get some prenatals! pregnancy is a wonderful thing and you two seem rather independent given your age. Everything will work out just fine. it usually does.

Congratulations mama!!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper

Congrats, and good luck! Talk to your fiance, and get to the doctor. The rest comes naturally.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

TAKE PRENATALS LIKE NOW! if i were you i would wait until after your first ultrasound for dating and viability to tell anyone. mainly because it seems like you could get some heat for it and its still so early that you want to make sure the pregnancy is gonna stick. i am sending you  baby dust and congratulations! 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Audreysdance:  I agree. I would tell them after the date when miscarriage risk decreases.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

As pp have mentioned, I would wait to tell them after the risk of miscarriage decreases, around 12-14 weeks. It’s likely that they’re not going to be overly thrilled and you don’t want to have to rely on them for support if something happens. Start taking your prenatals, make an appointment with your doctor and get everything on track health wise.

After all that, when you have a chance, I’d also look into seeing what services your college provides for new moms – do they offer daycare etc. As you get farther along you can start to plan more about taking some time for your maternity leave, scheduling exams and everything else that goes along with having a baby in college. 

Given your June 2013 wedding date, I’m assuming you were waiting to finish college before you got married. Are you still okay with that given that you’ll have a baby at that time? Have you put down deposits for things, sent out invites and such? If not you could always move up (Winter break?) or push back the wedding. 

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