(Closed) Urgent! What would you do in this situation? Assistant sabotaging my career…

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 2
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Blushing bee

I would go to the administration NOW and tell them your side of the story. And document everything, if you can. Logs of when she does things that are against the rules. Recording audio on your phone if that’s allowed. Anything you can get that is irrefutable proof that her actions are the ones that are incorrect.

Hopefully, if your administration is good, they’ll see right through her. It sounds like she’s being blatantly dishonest about your actions and anyone who is good at sorting out conflicts will be able to see that.

(I should add that I don’t work in a school, so the rules might be different in education. Feel free to take what helps and ignore what doesn’t!)

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Have your administrators observed you?  Have you told them about your concerns?  Has your other assistant told them that the other lady fabricated things about you?  The administrators can’t fire you unless they go through a certain process.  We actually had a teacher let go at our school a few weeks ago — she had been on probation since September and they met with her MANY times to help her improve her teaching as well as observed her multiple times, but nothing improved.  Once they jumped through all of the hoops and realized that she was not a team player and was blaming everyone else for her problems (including one of our principals and other teachers), they let her go.

I would get to the end of the year and start looking for new jobs.  It isn’t worth this much drama.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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backtothestart:  Great points.  Documentation is definitely key!

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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wifetobee63:  Why are you sweating this if you have adult witnesses to that incident, she has given her notice  and your other assistant disagrees with her?

I would inform your union rep simply for the fact that it is always a good idea for them to know what is going on.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Likel a dumb question but can you request a new assistant and have her replaced?

Post # 7
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Helper bee

I agree that you should document everything- by e-mail so that the dates are confirmed- even if it is to your own account. And speak to both your union and management. This sounds horrible!

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

Give your account of events to administrators and yes, your union needs to know.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

If she’s given her notice, then honestly, they don’t have a lot of reason to put stock in her complaints. By quitting, she’s already solved their problem. PPs gave good advice on documentation and getting your other, supportive assistant involved. I guess I don’t know the full story, but I don’t see how you’re going to get in trouble for NOT denying children food?

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

DOCUMENT. DOCUMENT. DOCUMENT. 
Now that you have the union involved, follow all their recommendations and advice to a T. It sounds like a frustrating and potentially escalating situation, but if you have the support of your union, then you just have to ride the wave. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

This woman has no business being in the career that she’s in. If I were you I wouldn’t feel bad if she got fired. By just shuffling her around the kids are the ones who will suffer. The well being of the kids should be everyone’s first priority, especially given how vulnerable this group of children is. Don’t be a pushover – stand up for yourself and those kids!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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wifetobee63:  If administration asks to speak with you, take a union rep with you to the meeting. I know in my state and district, we have the right to have union representation at any meeting we want. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Could you imagine if the parents found out their kids were being denied food as “punishment?” You potentially have a scandal on your hands. I would speak loudly out against her just for that fact. Distance yourself from this woman.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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wifetobee63:  I would talk to the administration. For all you know she is being investigated along with the ex teacher. Whilst it is your right to have a union representative and I am all for unions, sometimes going in guns blazing without attempting to talk to the head of the school unfortunately gets you the reputation of being a trouble maker which while unfair can be just as damaging to your career.

When you say witholding food do you mean lunch/scheduled meal or do you mean a treat (like for good behaviour)? If it is a lunch etc then you need to report that asap. By not reporting it you are leaving yourself open in a legal sense. That is definitely something you should discuss with the union.

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