(Closed) Use my maiden name monogram as shower thank you note?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
336 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I say use the stationary, since technically, you’re not yet married, therefore not yet taking his name. Especially if the card is really nice and elegant, I say go for it. Most people will just be happy to get a nice card.


Post # 4
288 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

i think thats fine! plus its one of the last times you get to use your name in a fun way. 🙂


Post # 5
6355 posts
Bee Keeper

Seems fine to me… it is your current last name, plus so many people keep their last name these days, and also, in my case my Fiance is taking my name, so that would be an extra cute factor in a scenario like that.

Post # 6
1720 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I say use them while you still can 🙂

Post # 7
628 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Saccebers:  I think you should use them. First, you should still be going by that name until you are married. Second, a lot of people do not change their name.

Post # 8
11422 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@Saccebers:  That is exactly what I did. I sent informals that were embossed with my then-current, maiden-name mongram.

Post # 10
1696 posts
Bumble bee

@Saccebers:  It is not only “ok” to use your own personalized stationery bearing your own current monogram, but impeccably correct. You may use it too, for any wedding presents that you receive before your wedding date, for invitations to any bridal teas that you might issue, and any other elegant correspondence you can dream up to use up your pretty cards. You may not use your married monogram until after you are actually married — and I hope that you acquire some as elegant as your current stationery!


Post # 11
3306 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@aspasia475:  that!

Also, bridal shower gifts should generally be for the bride. Wedding gifts are for the couple. I only mention this to say that likely you won’t be responding for “us,” you’ll only be responding for yourself.

Post # 12
2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

More than ok.  No need to waste it!

Post # 13
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Saccebers:  I think it’s fine

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