Post # 1
I have a question and need some advise on the useage of my last name on my invites for my upcoming wedding, I have been married before about 27 years ago and I have still used that last name to this day.My question is do I use my married last name that I currently use today or use my maiden last name? Or can I use both last names ? I don’t know what is apporiate for useage on the invites.
Help I need to do what’s right! My future husband has not ask this question of the use of my ast name it just came up for me.
Post # 3
I believe the rule is to use your legal name.
I think you should use the name that people will recognize you by. If you have used your married name for 27 years, then most people probably recognize you as that. Of course, you could always include both your maiden name and your current married name.
So if your maiden name was Jane Marie Smith, and you married John Jones 27 years ago and have been known as Jane Jones ever since, you could use either Jane Smith Jones or Jane Marie Jones.
I think the important thing is that people who get the invitations know who the bride is. If you use only your maiden name (Jane Marie Smith), many guests may have trouble recognizing whose wedding it is.
Of course, even though I say this, I would have used (had we had a big enough wedding for formal invitations) my maiden name on my invitations. Legally, I still had my ex-husband’s name until I remarried, but I had quit using it and was going by my maiden name socially. I only used my married name on legal documents. I should have had it changed in my divorce decree…
Post # 4
I didn’t use my last name on my invitations (and the formal invites I’ve seen from friends didn’t either).
We said something like:
Mr. and Mrs. Dad’s name Last name invite you to the marriage of their daughter
My first name + middle name
FI’s first name +middle name
son of Mr. and Mrs. FFIL’s name Last name.
Then you avoid any potential confusion with your madien name or your married name you go by now.
Post # 5
As FutureKMM said, I have seen invites where only the First and Middle names were used and no last names. That may be the best option if you don’t want to use your legal name.
Post # 6
The only real issue is what name your guests will recognize. Leaving off the last name could be confusing if the invitation says, “Mr. and Mrs. John Jones invite you to the wedding of their daughter Sally,” if you are Sally Smith and the people you are inviting never knew that your name had been Jones.
Post # 7
Since I went back to my maiden name years ago this was not an issue for me however the wording on our invitations do not have our last name it starts out with Brides First Name ane Grooms First Name fell in love and will be married … Maybe you could get around the name issue something like that. But if your former married name is what everyone knows and you and your fiance are comfortable with it. Just use it.
Post # 8
I used my legal name….I’ve had it for the past 17 years. I did consider using “First Maiden Last” but then realized there is no other time when I would use that format….so why use it for this?
Using First Middle works if your invitation is actually from the parents…but IMO it doesn’t work as well if the bride and groom are hosting.
Post # 9
I think, correct me if I am wrong, traditionally a bride used her first and middle name on the invite only. This is because the parents were hosting the wedding and had the same last name as the bride so it was obvisouse what the brides last name was. Or you can use both your maiden and your last name