(Closed) "Use only what you need" on Bathroom Baskets

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is it rude to have a "use only what you need" sign on the bathroom basket?
    Yes : (134 votes)
    69 %
    No : (48 votes)
    25 %
    Other : (11 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 32
    9134 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    I think you’re more likely to encourage the rebellious guest that was thinking about it to actually do it rather than determ them.  But it’s not like you are saying “Use only what you need” as a sign by itself.  It’s in a pretty long poem that I honestly wouldn’t read as soon as I realized the stuff in the basket was to use.  Most guests won’t “steal” form the basket but a few might and so what if they do?  Are you planning on lugging all of that stuff back home if nobody uses it up?  I’ve seen more than a few Bees complain about nobody using anything out of the bathroom baskets.

    Post # 33
    6354 posts
    Bee Keeper

    It seems redundant (“because, you know, I planned to use what I don’t need! I’m quirky like that!”) but I’m indifferent. Some venues I’ve been in have those baskets or trays of stuff but I don’t think I’ve ever needed anything from them. If I potentially need anything, that’s what my handbag is for 🙂

    Actually, I kinda don’t like those venues with with basket because usually, though not always, they come with a bathroom valet. I really don’t feel comfortable around bathroom valets. A basket by itself is harmless though, but I am unlikely to look at it closely enough to even notice a note in it. 

    Post # 34
    4371 posts
    Honey bee

    It’s pretty rude, IMO. 

    Post # 35
    2625 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I wouldn’t do the basket at all, if I had to commisterate over people being rougish and taking things. Ditch the basket.

    Post # 36
    104 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’m honestly really confused about why you would go to the trouble of buying products for your guests and then discourage them from using everything. I went all out for my ladies room basket. It had everything from static guard to Dr Scholls heel cushions to deodorant. At the end of the night, there was maybe one bandaid and two bobby pins left in the basket, and I was really happy that people had found the basket useful and taken everything.

    Post # 37
    4413 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @Mokara:  +1 I totally agree. I think sometimes people may think the venue provided the basket, in which case it’s totally okay to take stuff because Robin Hood, stealing from the rich, etc. … so if you put your wedding monogram or “courtesy of the newlyweds” or whatever and make it clear that YOU provided the stuff, people will probably be a little less likely to fill their pockts!!

    Post # 38
    172 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I’m doing baskets with the intention of the stuff getting used. I don’t plan to keep the unused items; so, if some rude person just grabs everything and puts in their purse early on in the evening, oh well.


    Personally, I wouldn’t put a sign up, but I wouldn’t find it rude if I saw a sign. I’d think, ‘how thoughtful for them to put things out for us here. If that sign wasn’t there, all those tampons might be gone, and I’d be screwed!!!’ Sorry, it’s been a weird day.



    Post # 39
    5264 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I like the basket idea but would skip the sign

    Post # 40
    1041 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @lovelyduckie:  I don’t think it’s rude per se, but I would not read that poem.  Just put a sign that says “Please take only what you need.”

    Post # 41
    547 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @lovelyduckie:  I don’t think it’s rude, but as PPs have said, don’t be surprised if people steal things from the basket anyway. We had a sign, and it didn’t seem to work… so it was probably a waste of time. I was peeved at the end of the night when I realized people had literally stolen items from our bathroom basket. I’m talking full bottles of perfume & hair products that would take me a year to go through–so there’s no way they were empty by the end of the night.

    This is what our sign said:

    We’re so happy you’re here to share in our day,
    so we’ve put together a basket in case something goes astray.
    Please use what you need to fix what’s gone wrong,
    and then hurry back out before you miss the next song!
    Love Always,
    The Newlyweds

    Post # 42
    196 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @lovelyduckie:  I don’t think it’s rude, but I do like PrincessBride27’s poem better. It doesn’t overtly say “don’t take crap you don’t need” but still makes it clear it’s okay to use stuff in there.

    TBH, the first time I encountered a bathroom basket, I was confused. Like, did the bridal party accidently leave it behind? Did the venue leave it for the bridal party? Am I supposed to pay for it? I had to ask a couple people before someone knew what it was! (So, I’m not the only dense one, lol.) Also, barely anything in the basket was taken, even by the end. A poem or sign would have been helpful. I was a wedding newb at the time… I know better now, so I’d know what it was, but not everyone understands you can take what you need from a bathroom basket. 

    Post # 45
    196 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @lovelyduckie:  Haha, glad I’m not the only one!

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