(Closed) Used and under appreciated.

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Is it ok to be upset about this?
    Yes : (6 votes)
    29 %
    No : (14 votes)
    67 %
    Maybe : (1 votes)
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  • Post # 2
    496 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    BunneeBlack:  There are lots of different ways to handle this:

    Have a joke about how you must both have great taste! Maybe she’ll get the idea from that?

    Point-blank call her out on it.

    Ignore her having the same ‘ideas’ as you.

    Or, stop telling her your ideas and just make your wedding what you want it.


    I’d probably go for 1 and 4 ๐Ÿ˜› But maybe I’m too passive aggressive haha!

    Post # 3
    4898 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    BunneeBlack:   Keep your plans to yourself!  

    Post # 5
    7411 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Agreed, keep your plans to yourself. But don’t be surprised when there are still a lot of similarities between your weddings, because it’s pretty normal for people around the same age in the same social circle to have similar tastes and styles. No one– and I mean no one– is going to notice any of these similarities but you, and it is absolutely not worth getting upset over.

    Post # 6
    547 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Stop telling her your ideas and if she asks, tell her you prefer the details if your wedding to be a surprise. 

    Post # 7
    434 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I couldn’t even tell you what the “colors” were or what the wedding party was wearing in the last three weddings I went to, and I was IN one of those weddings. No one cares, seriously. Unless you are, like, riding in on an elephant and she copies you, it’s safe to say that no one is going to notice. Or care.

    Also, your title is a little dramatic. 

    Post # 8
    2695 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    definitely implement don’t ask don’t tell… and if they do ask don’t tell.. lol

    I know it’s hard to see ideas replicated so silence is the best way to combat this

    Post # 9
    2963 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

    I’m not sure why you kept sharing your plans with her after the first time you realized she was using all of your ideas. Stop discussing wedding plans with her. 

    Post # 10
    1221 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    So she whined to her fiancé that you mentioned her copying your suit idea? And then he called you to complain too? Rather childish. Definitely stop sharing info about your wedding with her.

    Post # 11
    1462 posts
    Bumble bee

    The BEST thing you can do is keep ALL of your wedding details to yourself.  Period.  This woman sounds like she is the type who likes to copy your ideas, so if you do not want to feel like a bridezilla or have a strained friendship, stop telling her everything. 

    It really is annoying when you have a copycat.  There’s a lot of people who would say that it is “flattering” to have someone copy you and that no two weddings are alike — but personally, I would still feel upset and super annoyed if a friend was copying all of my wedding ideas.

    So do yourself a favor and save yourself future drama and headaches.  ONLY share your wedding ideas with people who love and support you 110%, and if you need a place to vent, this forum is an excellent outlet to share all of your ideas without fear that someone in your circle of friends will do the exact same thing as you.

    Post # 13
    434 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    This is just all very overly dramatic. None of it matters in the long run, seriously. None of it. You will both be married, even if the grooms are wearing identical potato sacks. Just laugh about it and GET OVER IT.

    Post # 14
    812 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    BunneeBlack:  Hm. Honestly, I would have just started sharing with her different “ideas”. You can have fun designing TWO weddings! And the funniest part – make sure you put *very expensive* ideas in her head ๐Ÿ™‚ Ahhh it stinks not having a mind if your own ๐Ÿ˜›

    Post # 15
    5987 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    BunneeBlack:  I’d make stuff up. Oh yes, I’m releasing crows at the end of the ceremony. The bridesmaids are wearing fluffy pink feathered dresses… blah blah blah. See if she copies THAT.

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