Post # 16
nawella: yeah I dont know. Its 120 guest wedding. Most people we know very well. I would hope word of mouth and simple common sense will be enough for the reception.
At the cereomony our officiant will make an announcement and it will also be in the programs that no electronics are welcomed. Also our two photographers are very vocal about having guests refrain from using electronics in general.
In my family (not sure about FIs) cell phones at formals events are a BIG no no- reception/ceremony included in that.
Post # 17
SparkleBee11: I think we’re on the same page. I don’t mind an unplugged ceremony, or asking people not to upload bride + groom photos to facebook immediately. But I don’t think you want to stop people taking a few photos over the course of the reception (either of you, or of themselves, because most people want a few photos of their own). That’s just too restrictive, IMO.
If they’re kids you know and love, they’ll probably interact and socialise a fair bit anyway. That’s what happens with my kids, and my nieces/nephews. Sometimes my nephews start playing games on an ipad, but not too often, and (because it’s several nephews about the same age, and about the age of the kids at your wedding) they tend to show each other what they’re doing, rather being immersed in it. So what I’m saying is that if an ipad or phone comes out later in the evening, it’s no big deal.
Post # 18
Is there a more gender neutral option for the activities that you could go for? Such as loom bands or something? They are very popular with both genders in Australia.
Post # 19
If you do decide to get toys, perhaps the best way to avoid the gender bias problem is to ask the parents what their kids would prefer.
Post # 20
I made little treat bags for the kids that included crayons, colouring pages, playing cards, Silly Bandz bracelets, toy cameras, and a mini-rubik’s cube. While things to keep the kids busy are not necessary, and easily cut to save time and money, many of the parents told me they appreciated the bags.
What about books with both coloring pages and puzzles (connect the dots, word finds, etc.), so the kids can choose between a couple activities within them?
Post # 21
I honestly think the kids (with the exception of the 6 year old) might just be a bit too old for toys etc. How long will the reception be? Will the kids all be sitting together or just with their parents? Ultimately you will know the kids best, but in my experience kids this age tend to fall into two camps at dinner parties/weddings and other more formal events: a) ipads/iphones are used as a pacifier b) kids are expected to engage with the adults or other peers around them. (This usually results in lively conversation or sullenness…not much middle ground with pre-teens).
Post # 22
SparkleBee11: Oh that helps a lot! We are going to have our officiant make an announcement too, mostly because I don’t want people getting in the way of the photographer during the ceremony. I am hoping people will back off with the social media too, although it would be awesome to see pictures right away the next day!
Post # 23
- Wedding: May 2014 - Smithfield Center
I see giving kids something to do as a EXTRA SPECIAL THING not a requirement. All of the kids you’ve invited are of the ages that they can sit there and be good. IMO, I don’t think it’s necessary to get all these toys and activities for them. The kids coming to our wedding are at the ages of yours and younger, and we’re doing coloring pages, activity mazes, and word searches. It’s one thing to have something for kids to do to pass the time but you have to think there’s other things they’ll be doing; they can also dance, and I assume they will be eating dinner, too, so there’s only a little time they need to not be occupied.
Post # 24
Don’t you think that legos and Jewerly pieaces can get scattered and people can trip over them. Don’t forget you gonna have people drinking and women inheels. Is it a safe ideea?
Post # 25
Why can’t the girls have Lego too?
Post # 26
SparkleBee11: I like the idea of the lego/jewlwery kits, and I thnk that just that is enough. It’ll help keep them occupied in their seats until dinner is done. I probably wouldn’t set up a movie in the bridal suite as I think it’s nice for them to stay and engage in the party (dancing, etc) rather than take off. But that’s really more about how close you are with them.