Useless bf needs help choosing a diamond/engagement ring

posted 3 weeks ago in Rings
Post # 2
262 posts
Helper bee

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@chuci24:  It looks beautiful (I’m not a cushion cut expert). But if size is a concern, you can get a lower colour (for me, the lowest would be a G) and a larger stone for around the same cost. I’m not a fan of halos, so I have no advice there!

Post # 3
614 posts
Busy bee

Welcome! Tips:

Cushions face up smaller than rounds, so expect that to look a bit smaller than you think.

Don’t buy a halo unless you’re sure she likes them, it’s a strong love-hate design element for most women.



Post # 4
290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 1996

Sir, you sound to me like a great soon-to-be fiance who’s trying very hard to buy a lovely and very special engagement ring for his girl.  I cannot imagine that what you describe will look too small on her hand.  Beyond that I have no expertise in these matters, as some other bees do, so let’s see what they say.  But in the meantime, I say bravo for you!!  May you and she have a lovely marriage.

Post # 5
614 posts
Busy bee

That stone looks gorgeous to me, crisp clean faceting, white and good clarity.


You COULD go down in clarity if you want to save money and aren’t head over heels with that stone, but if that checks all your boxes go for it!

Post # 6
114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2020

Check out this page it will help you with finger coverage and basic guidelines. I also second going down in color grade to get more value a D color vs a G color is so subtle to me it’s not worth it. My diamond is a g and I see no different from my moms D color. Also the price seems fair this is a comparison to the site my ring is from×6.19×3.96/ 

Post # 8
1610 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

Lab diamonds are a lot cheaper. They’re the same as mined but made in a lab.

I like my stones bright and white, so I wouldn’t want anything lower than f or g.

Cut is the most important c.

A 1.2 cushion would prob be around 6 mm wide? I have a finger size 7, and the sweet spot for me is a 7.5 to 8 mm round. Once you add the halo, it should provide more finger coverage. I think slimmer halos look much better.

I also think a slimmer or tapered band also helps make the center stone pop.

Your gf is lucky to have you!

Post # 9
3990 posts
Honey bee

Personally, I would find a stone that is more in the G-H range, SI clarity and go a little bigger on size.  As a previous poster mentioned, cushions face up a lot smaller than other shapes.

I have a 2.2 ct, cushion, I, SI2 on a size 6.5 and it’s perfect for me.  

Adding a halo will help with finger coverage, but I think you could sacrifice a little on color and clarity to get a larger stone. 

ETA:  and to be clear, I’m not talking about going into the 2+ ct range.  I just mean a little larger (1.5-1.7) just due to cushions facing up smaller.

Post # 10
722 posts
Busy bee

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@chuci24:  check out for good prices. I just heard of them yesterday; you’ll have to do your research on how good they are but their prices look phenomenal and I heard a few good things online. Cut is very important because that’s what gives the stone its sparkle. So don’t compromise on that…nothing less than excellent in my opinion. I have an H diamond and it looks very white to me and I bet even an I would still look really white. My diamond is a vvs2 but I’ve seen LOTS of stones that’s are SI1 that look beautiful. I wouldn’t go SI2 though.  

Post # 11
2234 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: City, State

You can definitely move down on color unless you know she’s color-sensitive. G-H is still very white. You’re safe in the VS1 or VS2 range. A 1.2 cushion won’t face up super large. What was the size of the stone in the inspo ring she shows you? 

Post # 12
1579 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

I get the other suggestions to sacrifice on a C to get a bigger size, but I found I was super sensitive to color and I’d have been unhappy to compromise on that. I will say that my finger at a 5.25, I was hoping for a 1-1.25 carat minimum based on rings I tried on (I also wanted/have a cushion). I’ve since lost weight and my finger has shrunk to something ridiculously small like a size 3, and I still could have done with a 1.25 😂. 


Anyways, if you get a really thin band, it does make the center stone larger. And pending the setting, you can also let a lot of light in which will make that sucker sparkle. Plus, the halo will also “help” with size. 

Post # 13
1046 posts
Bumble bee

Do you know what type of rings she tends to favour now?  Just wondering if the preference for a ‘super thin’ plain band might also mean she doesn’t want anything too big, in which case, what you’re looking at would be fine. 


Post # 14
35 posts
  • Wedding: June 2004

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@chuci24: I would also go down in color but that is a personal preference, some prefer going with a smaller diamond at the highest quality. I just bought a ring from this site and I built you one with an equivalent diamond and a similar band to what you are looking for.

This is my F color 2.01ct SI1 from this site, for reference on the color. It is a heart shape but you can see the small halo, my ring size is 6. 

I see you have put a lot of thought into the ring and I am sure she will love it!! The size vs color is a personal choice but quality wise I would also go down a little bit in color. 

Post # 15
838 posts
Busy bee

The diamond and setting are gorgeous!!

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