- 9 years ago
- Wedding: May 2010
Ok, while I know that Ushers aren’t a huge intergral part of the wedding party, they are still a part of it. We have 3 of em. However, lately, one of them is pushing the lines of friendship. Do the Fiance and I keep him as a friend, even though he’s a bad one, just because he’s in the wedding? Or can we cut him as both a friend and usher?
This past weekend, he came to visit. He’s an extreme politico (but not either of the standard parties. That’s a long story in itself) and tends to push his extreme theories and opinions on everyone. Well, NC just passed the smoking ban law and I said how glad I was to be able to go out that night and not come home smelling like I rolled around in an ash tray. He jumped all over me talking about rights and blah blah blah. Well, after about a split second of him verbally attacking me and my beliefs, the Fiance (wonderful man that he is) jumped to my defense. After a headed debate the the usher calling my Fiance an ugly political name, all finally died down. Mostly cause the Fiance walked away. The usher has a tendency to do this quite often. Well, the rest of the weekend quickly went down hill and there was more drama to ensue. He’s also picking fights w/ another friend who is a groomsman. So much so, the groomsman friend is considering breaking off the friendship entirely.
My Fiance wanted him to be an usher b/c they have been friends for a few years. But, with all this drama, and with his insane tendency to push his beliefs on anyone who will listen, I don’t really want him in the wedding. My Fiance is a very “go with the flow” kind of guy and says it’ll be fine. What do I do?