Post # 1
Hi all! I need your help!! My fiance has two sisters who are 7 and 10 years OLDER than I am. I get along with them great, but not well enough where we hang out on a regular basis or chat all the time. I obviously want them to be in our wedding and to have a meaningful part. I already have my bridesmaids chosen and he has his groomsmen also so that’s not an option for them. I have been given the idea by a few people to have them as Usherettes. We currently don’t have any Ushers since we were thinking we wouldn’t need them. This way, they would be included in pictures and have a bigger part in the day versus just doing readings or being in charge of programs. What do you think? Yes, no? Good, bad? Other ideas?? Also, how I do go about asking them to fill this part in our wedding day without them feeling slighted?!!
Post # 4
I think it’s a good idea. I have 2 cousins I’m quite close to who are 18 and 20 but they weren’t part of my bridal party. Instead, they were the ushers, gift table and guestbook attendants. They loved helping out and playing a bigger role during our wedding day.
Post # 5
I think usherettes are fine, but I do think you need to be conscientious of how you ask. My Maid/Matron of Honor was an “usherette” earlier this year. She was never officially asked; she was told a few weeks before the wedding at the bachelorette party by another member of the wedding party. She found out that she was expected to go buy a dress about a week before the wedding, and that had to match another usherette’s dress. By the end, she felt like it was done as an afterthought to justify getting her help on the wedding day and having her bring gifts to 4 prewedding parties (engagement party, bachelorette party, lingerie party AND bridal shower!) So, that pretty much sucked.
HOWEVER, I think if you explain the reasons you mentioned, and let them know it would be an honor to have them be a part of your wedding day, it should be just fine!
Post # 6
Thank you so much for your opinions and feedback! I don’t know why I’m worrying about it so much, but it could be because the oldest one is married with 2 kids who are going to be our ringbearers and her husband is one of my fiance’s groomsmen. I just feel like she’ll expect to have a part in the wedding and I don’t want her to feel put on the spot and uncomfortable if I ask her to do a reading. The other one probably wouldn’t care either way, but she’s closer in age to me (7 years older) and if I have one, I would want the other.
We will likely be asking them to be Usherettes, I guess I just needed some reassurance that the idea is ok and not totally wrong.