Post # 1
So…. tell me about ushers. Are they critical? Can the groomsmen just do it? I don’t remember other weddings having ushers, but my planner is suggesting I pick some. So… who did you chose? Why were they not groomsmen?
Post # 3
We’re not having ushers. Our guests are adults and know how to sit down themselves 🙂
Post # 4
As long as your groomsmen are not needed for pictures (which they shoudn’t) or help the groom in some way, your groomsmen can totally double duty as ushers. Sometimes people pick close friends who aren’t in the wedding party to do it. Maybe Aunts and Uncles even? I can see if someone didn’t want the wedding party to mingle with the guests prior to the ceremony, they’d choose to have non-groomsmen ushers.
We are having two ushers, mainly because we are having a large formal wedding and have programs to pass out. We’re unsure, but it may be one of the groomsmen and FI’s uncle. You don’t need ushers if your wedding is small and informal. As PP, most guests know what to do 🙂
Post # 5
They can be friends or family. I had my two brother’s as ushers. They are chatty Kathy’s and talked everyone up. They seriously knew everyone by the end of the wedding.
They weren’t GM’s cause neither wanted to be, tho my Maid/Matron of Honor was married to one of them, and their kid was a Flower Girl. Plus Darling Husband had four guys he’s really really tight with. I didn’t have his sister or SIL as a Bridesmaid or Best Man.
ETA: they handed out programs while the Groomsmen hung out with my Darling Husband. Are they vital .. no… we didn’t get them gifts … but if you want granny or some aunt walked down the aisle they can do that.
Post # 6
We’re having ushers instead of groomsmen (except for the best man). But our ceremony is in a public park where we’ve reserved an area by permit, so they’re doubling as bouncers. Polite, well-dressed bouncers.