Post # 1
I didn’t really think about having ushers… are most of you having them? I know they serve the purpose of seating guest, handing out programs, but what else do they do? I guess a way to honor a friend who didn’t make the bridal party… Can’t people seat them selves and take a program from a basket?? Am I missing a key role here?
Post # 3
We are not having ushers. Those of our guests that need help to be seated will be attended to by the grooms party. The rest of them can just find their own seat.
Post # 4
I guess where I’m from I haven’t been to a wedding that hasn’t had ushers. And the ushers I’ve seen don’t even go near the programs. I’ve been to weddings where there are other people handing out the programs or in a basket. For me, I think having ushers is important because we’re not having your typical church wedding and the grooms side over here and the brides side over here. We’re also having 300+ guests so that is the reason we’re having 4 usher instead of two. Another reason for the 4 ushers is for some to help the elderly and direct people where to go (because again, we’re not in a church).
I think anything dealing w/ your wedding depends on what YOU want to do and what you think is best. So those are my reasons, but I’m sure others have different thoughts.
Post # 5
I don’t think ushers are absolutely necessary, but they’re a nice way to include people who didn’t make the wedding party. You’re right, all they really do is seat people and hand out programs, at least that’s all ours did. You definitely don’t need to have them if you don’t want them.
Post # 6
We’re just going to put the programs on the chairs ahead of time. It’s a wedding of 50 people and not a huge space for the ceremony – we’re hoping everyone figures it out. 🙂
Post # 7
If we decide we need ushers, the two groomsmen who are not the best man will do it.
Post # 8
GMs be doing all that work.
Post # 9
I would have been fine using GMs as ushers but Fiance really wanted to spend that time before the wedding with “the fellas”, so we are having 3 ushers. They say to have one usher to every 50 guests, and we are expecting between 150 and 200, so we are going on the low side, but I think it will be fine. Even though our wedding isn’t super formal, I do like that traditional look of guests being ushered to their seats. Not to mention, it is more organized!
Post # 10
we don’t know enough people to have ushers, so a couple of the groomsmen are going to just direct guests and make sure that only immediate family gets the first couple of pews
Post # 11
We didn’t have ushers. This was my thought process:
Person: “So, are you going to have ushers?”
Me: “Like, at a theater?”
Person: “Yeah, to help people find their seats.”
Me: “They can’t find their own seats? It’s not like they’re numbered, and we’re not doing sides.”
Person: “Well, sometimes people will have ushers to give important roles to other family members that couldn’t be in the wedding party.”
Me: “Helping people to their seat is important?”
Person: “Umm … “
Me: “No, we’re not having ushers. I’m pretty sure our guests are capable of finding a seat and sitting it in themselves.”