(Closed) Using a friend as the photographer

posted 5 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
195 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I had a friend do my first wedding, and she was actually working as a photographer at the time.  Worst money I’ve ever spent…..!! Am glad i didnt need the memories.

I’ve been alot more careful for this time round.

Post # 4
765 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

My friend did this–and I would recommend against it. Professional wedding photographers bring more than just talent to the table–they bring experience. They know what shots work, what shots don’t work, and what shots they need to cover. My friend ended up not getting half the pictures she wanted–simply because the photographer didn’t really know where to stand to get the best shots of certain elements of the wedding. 

Post # 5
4930 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I am! She’s a professional and I love her style. I’m comfortable around her, which is a big plus, and my pictures are going to be better because of it. I can’t imagine using anyone else.


Post # 6
2120 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My friend started doing pro photography a couple years ago. i was really worried cuz shes my good friend but her recent ex husband was the best man. i couldnt afford the photographers in the area and she wanted to do it as a present. It actually went super well. The photos are great!! She also brought her photo booth but it kinda broke down till the last couple hours. The regular photos turned out great though!! Its always kinda be a little bit of a gamble.

Post # 7
5064 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’m having both, my friend has offered to do our photography but I really also want some professional shots too. Out of the many regrets of my first not using a professional photographer was one. I’m glad I didn’t need the photos…In contrast though it’s my top priority this time round to pay for a professional. Although I’m cheating because he’s a friend so I’m hoping he’ll help me to be relaxed. 

Post # 8
2073 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We did. Our friend does professional wedding photography though so it wasn’t like we asked a friend who dabbled in photography. She gave us a great deal and I’m very pleased with her work. 

I’d be a bit leery of asking a friend who isn’t a professional to do the photos. It’s such an important day to risk being unhappy with the results. It’s not like youcanask for a re-shoot. OP, in your situation, I’d hire a professional and suck it up and pay the fees. 

Post # 9
1314 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2006

If your friend is a professional wedding photographer, go for it.  If not, you’re taking a huge risk if photography is important to you.  You can’t get a BA in wedding photography.


Post # 10
4932 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Personally I don’t ever recommend mixing business and friendship 

Post # 11
621 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Ask yourself if you’re willing to lose this friend forever if things go awry and you are unhappy with the results or the way they manage things. It’s just not a good idea to mix business and friendship. I read friendor horror stories on this photo board on an almost weekly basis. 

Post # 13
2300 posts
Buzzing bee

@AlexandriaX:   Yes, go with a professional.

My cousin had her “friend” take photos of her wedding and the “friend” never took any pics of the grooms family. In fact she asked me(part of the grooms family) to give her pics. She was awful and too busy eating and drinking and getting high to pay attention to her job.

I’m gonna DIY a lot, but I think the one thing you must splurg on is the photographer. The wedding and reception happens once, and you want the best pics.

Post # 14
11166 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@HappySky7:  Agreed.

I never want to put myself in a position that would quite possibly destroy a friendship. Think of it this way, what would you do if the photos came back absolutely horrid?

I know you may be getting a deal but photography is so important and we are such harsh critics of our images. I say go with someone else, perhaps someone with a bit more experience and less direct connection.


Post # 15
76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

One of my best friends was our wedding photographer.  She does wedding photography in the Tulsa, OK area and she was the first person I contacted when I had my date set.  My wedding was in between DFW and Austin- so it was a nice 6.5 hour drive for her.  We also did boudoir shots the day after (yesterday).  Based on the shots I saw- she let me flip through her camera for a sec- it turned out amazing!


Post # 16
3101 posts
Sugar bee

@AlexandriaX:  No!  DON’T do it!  Unless he is a professional photographer, do not expect anything out of amateur wedding photos.  Just IMO from having heard only horror stories from friends.  Photography was my #1 priority and I’m so happy because its the only thing you have left after your wedding day to relive the memories!

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