(Closed) Using a priest from another church to officiate ceremony?

posted 9 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

You have to get permission from your priest in order to bring another Catholic priest and/or a Protestant co-officiant to do your ceremony.

If you have a personal relationship with the priest that you are inviting to do your ceremony, I don’t think that it would be a problem.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

It depends on the church.  The church I go to will not allow any other priests to do the ceremony – my church is more conservative though ..I’m pretty sure other churches do allow it.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2008

I’m not Catholic, but we used a different Reverend for our ceremony at the Methodist church, and it worked out smoothly.  I’d initially planned the date with the church with the current pastor, but when a family friend mentioned that I could get the previous pastor (who was a family friend) to officiate the ceremony, I was so happy.  I called him, and he made all the arrangements with the church, as far as calling to ask permission, etc.  You might as well give it a try!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

My fiance and I are getting married in my church but using the priest from his church. When I talked to the pastor at my church about bringing in a different priest it was totally a non-issue. It’s the same diocese, which probably helps. Anyway– don’t stress until you talk to the priest at your church. It might not be a big deal.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I’m not Catholic, but we dealt with this within my Protestant denomination… remember that your priest doesn’t know or need to know that you’re not a fan – he just needs to know that there’s a priest that you and your Fiance both know well, and it would be meaningful for that priest to officiate or co-officiate.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

it’s not laughable… it’s completely a legit want.  And inho, the priest should be someone who knows you as opposed to random stranger.

It all depends on the church.  Worst case scenario, they will only allow the visiting priest to assist the wedding and the pastor of the church will still be there. (but you could probably let your priest preach).

Best case scenario, they’ll have no issues with it.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I did this. I live in DC, got married in Atlanta, and the priest who married us was from a different Atlanta church than the one we got married in. The Atlanta church we got married in actually had as its policy that if you were not a member (which we weren’t since we were out of state) that you had to bring your own priest.

I think this is something that differs church by church. All you can do is ask!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

We are doing this, but the church (since it’s a historical site) requires that each couple bring their own priest.  So we were required to ask permission from each of our parishes to be married there, and they had no issue with us when we decided on a priest who is not from either of our parishes.  I think most churches are fine with it since they usually have separate fees anyway (which I have come to find), for example, one fee for the church/parish and another fee for the priest. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Depends on the parish/Church. the priest at our Church is actually being reassigned in June. Our wedding is in September and we are going to TRY and get him to come back… it’s happened before with other priests so hopefully it works for us!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Usually they’ll be accomidating if you have a special circumstance.  For instance, I was going to bring in a priest to celebrate the Traditional Latin Mass and very few priests know how to celebrate it.  It just so happened that the priest I sought out to celebrate my wedding Mass got assigned to my parish 5 months after I got engaged.  Also if the priest is a very close friend or relative, they may be willing to accomidate.

But be aware that the availability of another priest may be limited.  If you’re taking him away from another Mass, you may have to pay for his replacement.  And they might outright refuse because their lives are super busy as it is with the priest shortage.  So if its just that you have a distaste for your current pastor, I’d stick with your pastor. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee

Ask.  But, recognize the position of the present priest and tell him that you would like him to co-officiate if he is able.  That’s proper protocal.  More than likely he’ll say ‘that’s OK, let Fr. ABC do it.”  If he doesn’t, and wants to co-officiate, then you have to let him.  It’s his present pulpit.  But the good thing is that you will have the priest you want.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Our priest heard that we were having some concelebrants coming and he was like “Would you like them to do the wedding?” We were like “No! You’re important too!” lol

It really does all depend on the church. I know one in my school town that refuses to let another use the church in the pastors place and are strict on the “parishioner” requirement. But it’s the only “beautiful” church in town and a lot of students would get married there otherwise.

 

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