(Closed) Using an engagement photo of an “un-engaged” couple

posted 7 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
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3375 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Will the couple see it?

I actually wouldn’t be offended if I saw someone loving/using a picture of my ex-FI and I. Beautiful pictures will always be beautiful. Maybe she’ll like the way she looks in it?

Post # 4
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1231 posts
Bumble bee

ohhh..that’s tough. If you know she’s heartbroken about the whole thing, it may make her even more sad to see the picture.

Post # 5
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2759 posts
Sugar bee

If they were good friends of yours, I’d say no. But otherwise, go for it – your business depends on people seeing your best work and being inspired to hire you. If these pictures are some of the best you took over the course of the year, they shouldn’t be off limits because the couple broke up.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

If you think she’ll find out (ie she checks your blog regularly) and she’s still really sore over the breakup, I wouldn’t do it.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think you probably have enough amazing work that this one picture will not make that much of a difference. Maybe when a cuple asks to see more work you can share that picture then?

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ehh – if it was a close friend of yours, I could see that being insensitive, but I don’t think its cruel or jerk-ish.  And since this isn’t someone you know really well, and this is a business decision on your part, I think its totally fine.

Post # 9
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726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It may be a little bit cruel. I’d inform her that I was going to use the pic, so she wouldn’t be caught off guard if she found it on her own.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@kate169: I think that you should absolutely NOT use that photograph.  Not just because it would be awful for your friend, but it’s really just bad business.  If potential clients find out, it could look very callous and mean.  People also look for personality and compatibility when booking their vendors – I know I did – so to do something like that just seems selfish.  You must have other shots that you could use.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

If she is not your friend, I would go ahead and use it.  It’s business.  You could always let her know that you are using it, and see how she feels.

Post # 13
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6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would use it without telling her. Chances are good she’s not going to your site anyway. If she is, it’s going to make her sad just thinking of her epics. I don’t think having one specific photo on there would lessen that.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@kate169:  I think the fact that you have to ask or you feel some angst against using it, means its probably not the right move.

Like I said before, I would just display some of your other amazing work and maybe pull that photo out when a client asks for more work.

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I don’t think I would. Not just because she may be hurt, but because to me it seems kind of…odd. No your potential clients won’t know, but maybe people she referred or your mutual friend referred would see it and be like, “Uh, aren’t they broken up?”

I agree that obviously it can be part of your physical portfolio that more serious potential clients see, but no I wouldn’t have it posted online. Just my .02.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It’s really not good business, even if it is only a friend of a friend … you could possibly be alienating a future repeat customer.  And NEVER underestimate the power of word-of-mouth advertising … especially in the digital age.  With Yelp, wedding wire and reviews on the bee, if that girl felt slighted and vengeful over the use of that image she could potentially cause a firestorm of bad reviews – potential clients could easily get wind.

I still vote a no go. 

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