(Closed) Using an entire family in the wedding party…and money issues

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think it would be a nice gesture, but not necessary.

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I bought one of my bridesmaid’s dress and her plane ticket out – she’s also a broke college student and it was an expensive venture to be in my wedding. It was my gift to her to help out with those things and I know an expense I won’t regret 🙂

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It’s not needed, but if you have the money, I’m sure they would appreciate it greatly. I know I would if I was in that situation.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Kid clothing can be totally inexpensive if you look at the right time and places. Now that Easter has passed, you can find some great Easter dresses and kid suits/dress clothes at super low prices.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@ohmybears48:  YES!  Totally run to all the TJ Maxx or Marshells you can ASAP!!!  I got my flower girl dress there on clearance last year for $15.  As long as you can be a little flexible, you should be able to find something.  I got a little boys 3 piece tux from Burlington coat factory for I think 25 or 30. 

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Now is the time! All the Easter clothing is on sale. If you just buy the kids’ outfits and present them to the parents  as a fait accompli, it will be easier for them to accept than if you offer money.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I was in a similar bind – my Fiance is very close to his sister’s husband (they’ve been married 5 years now), they’re really like brothers, and I am very close to my FI’s sister (she was my friend before I met Fiance, I met him through her), and both Fiance & I are obsessed with our two amazing neices, their children. So, we’ve tried to keep costs in mind – it just seemed preposterous to have them spend $150+ on each dress when never would be worn again, on top of all the other bridal party costs. I felt that as long as the girls matched they didn’t need to wear a certain dress (ie doesn’t have to be the exact color as the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress, just needs to fit in with the overall look). We agreed to both keep our eyes open for dresses on sale and just keep in touch about it. In the process, I saw some cute dresses at David’s for $39, and we just went with them.

My point in all this is – if you’re not too concerned about what the girl is going to wear, just have the mom by a dress on sale once she has an idea what the girl’s size will be closer to the wedding.

As for the boys, can they just wear whatever suits they own, and put them in matching ties?

 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

That sounds lovely!

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Kids don’t actually get much wider for quite a while. They mostly get taller.

Most little girl’s dresses that have a sash can be adjusted to fit several sizes.

With the prices as low as they are now, you can likely buy 2 sizes for what one would cost you at regular prices. Another option is to look in consignment stores. There are always lots of great dress up clothes for both boys and girls.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Being in a wedding can get very expensive, so I definitely think you should buy the kids attire or be open to them wearing something they have or not participating.

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