Using birthdays/ holidays as announcements

posted 8 months ago in Pregnancy
Post # 31
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Buzzing Beekeeper

kittemae1990 :  So the co-worker isn’t upset that her dad didn’t get enough attention on his bday, she’s mad that SHE didn’t get enough attention on her dad’s bday. That’s petty and her pissiness is way more selfish than her brother & sil’s announcement.

Post # 32
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

We announced our current pregnancy at Christmas with both our families. We didn’t give the announcement as a “gift”….we just announced to them at that time. It was the only time we’re all together typically during the year, so it was the best time to tell everyone in person. I find no issue with it. 

Would I announce on a friend or family members birthday? Probably not, but Christmas is a “family” holiday so I don’t think it’s inappropriate. 

Post # 34
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Bumble bee

I think it’s fine but people should have the decency to do the announcment gift last after all the other gifts. 

Post # 35
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

kittemae1990 :  I wouldn’t be annoyed if someone did it; my SIL used a holiday to announce a life event. However, I wouldn’t do it myself. I would invite both sets of parents, grandparents, and siblings over, and then announce it to them together and let them spread the news to extended family. 

Post # 36
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Bumble bee

I can’t imagine doing this to anyone ever and would judge the hell out of someone who “gifted” me a sonogram for my birthday. Girl, just give me my card and bottle of wine and tell me you’re pregnant tomorrow.

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

 I think it’s more about knowing your audience. It sounds like you co-worker’s Father-In-Law was very happy and loved the announcement as a gift. It was rude for him to open the other gifts, but I think the others were within reason.

For a grandparents birthday, I don’t think it’s terrible to announce a pregnancy, nor for family holidays. Especially when you consider these same people would be complaining if they didn’t hear about it in person or from the couple directly. 

For a friend or siblings birthday, maybe not. Definitely not for a graduation or wedding. 

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

Oh jeez how ridiculous, skip the Pinterest “gift” idea and just say you’re pregnant. Out loud. At an appropriate time. For free. Problem solved!

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard

I would avoid doing it on birthdays. I feel like that should be for the birthday person alone. They don’t need to share their day with someone elses pregnancy announcement. But other holidays? Whatever, go for it.

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

It depends on the event.  Someone’s 50th wedding anniversary or college graduation? No, that day isn’t about you so don’t make it about you.  Holidays with the family?  Fine but don’t dominate the whole holiday.   Not everyone falls over themselves about pregnancy and babies and might not want to spend the whole holiday basking in your glow.  You never know who is going through infertility  or who just doesn’t  care. Be happy and take time to celebrate but then let other family share what’s going on in their lives. Birthdays? Depends on the person whose birthday it is.  I have a friend who makes a huge deal about her bday.  She wouldn’t want someone announcing they’re pregnant during her bday dinner.  As for a pregnancy announcement being a gift?  A gift for who?  My parents love being grandparents but I can see even them side eyeing a sonogram being gifted to them and thinking,  ok, where’s my actual gift.  

Post # 41
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 29th, 2016

My SIL announced her pregnancy to my husband and I on his birthday, which was also the same day as Father’s day. We were at their parent’s house celebrating both with them and she FaceTimed us. Their parents already knew so she was really only telling us… I thought it was odd that she decided to do it that way but we were still happy for them. 

Post # 42
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I wouldn’t think twice of someone announcing at a general holiday. But if it’s at someone else’s birthday or wedding or graduation or what have you, then nope, I’ll be Judgy McJudgerson about that.

Dh told his extended family on his birthday — they all live across the country and they call him on his birthday anyway, so he figured he’d just kill 2 birds with 1 stone and it’d give him something to talk about with them.

Post # 43
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Sugar bee

I don’t see a problem with telling people at birthdays and holidays. Often that’s one of the few times you have everyone all together.

I find it bizarre when adults expect to fawned over on their birthday and think that ‘thunder stealing’ is still a thing. 

That said – giving the pregnancy as a ‘gift’ is a little over the top. It’s a bit self centred to think that your baby is a gift to that person. It might be cute as a gift to the grandparent of their first grandbaby, but it still seems a bit cheesy to me. Just tell people like a regular person. 

Post # 44
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Busy bee

We told my brother & his family we were expecting on my nieces 12th birthday. I showed her the sonogram & let her tell everyone. She was beyond excited. But she also got an actual present I didn’t consider this her gift just a nice way to include her. She’s 12 & she didn’t think we took away from her birthday so I’m pretty sure adults would be ok with it. 

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