(Closed) Using Bridesmaid Dress as part of a costume disrespectful?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Does a Bride get a say in what her bridesmaids do with their dresses after the wedding?
    Yes, it was her wedding she gets a say. : (1 votes)
    0 %
    Yes, but only if she paid for the dresses. : (22 votes)
    8 %
    No, the bride only has control of those dresses and BMs during the wedding day : (257 votes)
    92 %
  • Post # 3
    768 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    That’s crazy on her part! She should be happy you got another use out of it and it wasn’t a total waste of money! 

    Post # 4
    460 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @ExcitedHooper:  I say absolutely not. It’s your dress, you paid for it and you can do whatever you please with it.

    Post # 5
    1227 posts
    Bumble bee

    She’s crazy. Ignore her. It’s your dress, wear it how and when you want to. Wear it while you mow the lawn or weed your vegetable garden if you like. It is none of her business. 

    Post # 6
    1784 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Wow. That’s a new level of over controlling. No, she doesn’t get any say in what you do with a dress you paid for after her wedding. 

    Post # 7
    263 posts
    Helper bee

    @ExcitedHooper:  I could understand if you wore it with the intention of making fun of it (for example, I’ve seen “ugly bridesmaid dress” paintball bachelorette parties), but you didn’t. I think the bride was way out of line.

    Post # 8
    3768 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    Totally silly.  What you do with your wardrobe is your own darn business!  Not disrespectful at all.

    Post # 9
    2285 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: Central Park

    LOL she is being nuts. Tell her it is your dress and you can do what you please to it. I also don’t know why you couldn’t dye it darker. If it is a synthetic you just need an acid based dye. What’s the mix? If it is cotton-polyester then no you can’t dye it yourself, but if it is 100% polyester then you can. 

    Post # 10
    433 posts
    Helper bee


    It’s your dress, you can do whatever you want with it.  What you wore it for wasn’t rude or disrespectful at all.  Tell her to get over herself.

    Post # 11
    12246 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    If you burned it in effigy, that would be different! But you just wore it to a party! She should be THRILLED you wore it again!

    Post # 12
    7642 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    You did nothing wrong. It’s yours to use how you want after the wedding. Perhaps you could gently remind the bride how you know another Bridesmaid or Best Man threw hers out.

    They’re there to be used. One of my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses has been worn many, many times… by my daughters playing dress-up!

    Post # 13
    42 posts
    • Wedding: May 2014

    that is nuts to be mad about it. i cant imagine wanting people to just love their dress and wear it every weekend afterward. and cherish it forever. Hardly any dresses are ever re-usable. Heck my friends and I had a dirty bridesmaid  party and had a grand old time again in ours.

    Post # 15
    9130 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    Nope!  Bridezilla for sure!  The only way this could be rude is if the costume was “Ugly bridesmaid dress” – and even then, it’s your own damn dress to do with what you want.

    Post # 16
    1176 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    The bride sounds like a self-centered prat with no sense of humour. 

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