(Closed) Using Bridesmaid Dress as part of a costume disrespectful?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Does a Bride get a say in what her bridesmaids do with their dresses after the wedding?
    Yes, it was her wedding she gets a say. : (1 votes)
    0 %
    Yes, but only if she paid for the dresses. : (22 votes)
    8 %
    No, the bride only has control of those dresses and BMs during the wedding day : (257 votes)
    92 %
  • Post # 17
    Member
    9097 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    No. What you do with the dress after their wedding is totally up to you. I assume you paid for it, it is yours. You could set it on fire in a ritual burning if you want. I’d tell the post-bride to get the stick out of her ass.

    Post # 18
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    955 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Wait…what…?  You have to “ask” before wearing a garment you purchased to wear in to her event that has long passed?

     

    I’m anxious to see if anybody pipes up here and agrees with this bride….I’m thinking not.

    Post # 19
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    853 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Wait, what?  She’s crazy.  Most of the time, a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress is nothing more than a costume itself, so it’s great you were able to actually wear it again.

    I agree with PP, if it’s was a “omg, look at how awful this dress was” sort of wearing it event, then yeah, maybe she’d be a little annoyed.  But what’s wrong with what you did?  Did she expect it to be respectfully gathering dust in the closet?

    Post # 20
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    853 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @JaneyDcat:  Haha… okay, about 10 seconds after you I posted same “wait, what” reaction.

    Post # 21
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    955 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @LittleCricket:  hehehee…

     

    ACTUALLY….I did throw an “ugly bridesmaid dress” party a few years ago.

     

    but then, I’m way older than many of you.  some of the dresses were downright HIDEOUS.  I had prizes for:

     

    1.  Biggest buttbow.

    2.  Biggest sleeves

    3.  Most shocking color….

     

    *Think 80s and early 90s dresses.  Man, those were some doozies.  And I assure you all, even though everyone thinks their bridesmaid dresses look fantastic today, in 15-20 years you’ll all get a good laugh.

     

     

    Post # 22
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    3120 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    If it was a daggon “27 dresses” or “Worst Bridesmaid’s Dresses” party then yeah, she should be miffed.  You weren’t even saying it was tacky!  Even if she was upset, she should have kept it to herself.  To say that you were disrespectful to her husband is just dramatic.  She needs to get over it.

    Post # 23
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    47203 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    She needs a reality check! I have worn my wedding dress as a costume!

    Post # 24
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    1966 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    That chick is off her rocker. You can do whatever you want with that dress. Its not like you put a pic of the costume with a caption that said “look what I did with this ugly dress”. That would’ve been hurtful.  You did what every bride wants… you wore the dress again. Don’t feel bad, you did nothing wrong. 

    Post # 25
    Member
    175 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I wanna see the costume 😉

    Post # 26
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    7977 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    I don’t think it’s any of the bride’s business, quite frankly. At least you got another use out of it.

    Post # 27
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    1227 posts
    Bumble bee

    I just want to add that if my Fiance ever gets offended by what my Maid/Matron of Honor does with her dress I will revoke his man-card, stat. What kind of guy gets bent out of shape over a bridesmaid dress and how it’s used after the fact? 

    Post # 28
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    7642 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @JaneyDcat:  Yes, I agree. My wedding was from then and my girls (as well as one I had to wear as a BM) would have been strong contenders in the “biggest sleeves” and “most shocking colour” stakes (though it looked perfect on the day, somehow). No big bows though!

    Post # 29
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    1830 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    you got another use out of the gown your friend and her husband need to calm down and stop being stupid

    Post # 30
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    11744 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Umm no wtf who does she think she is?! 

    Post # 31
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    9951 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Sorry to say this… but your Bride friend is cra-cra.

    You bought & paid for it… so really it is yours to do with as however you please (see fit)

    Uggh… just one more reason I HATE FaceBook… too much private info available in a PUBLIC domain.

    What you did is YOUR OWN BUSINESS… and she had no right to comment…

    Unfortunatley when you posted it… it did become open to comment / criticism

    This girl needs to get a life…. and get past the fact that the Wedding is over and done with.  And NO ONE is gonna hold it in the same “high regard” as she did / still does.

     

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