(Closed) Using Bridesmaid Dress as part of a costume disrespectful?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Does a Bride get a say in what her bridesmaids do with their dresses after the wedding?
    Yes, it was her wedding she gets a say. : (1 votes)
    0 %
    Yes, but only if she paid for the dresses. : (22 votes)
    8 %
    No, the bride only has control of those dresses and BMs during the wedding day : (257 votes)
    92 %
  • Post # 47
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    1889 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    As a bride, I would just be happy that one of my BMs re-wore her dress at all, regardless of where.  If my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses looked like something out of a sci fi movie, and they all wanted to wear them as part of their alien costumes, I’d just be glad they found a second time to wear it. 

    Post # 48
    Member
    5264 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I would be happy that you go to wear the dress more than once!!! She sounds a bit like a bridezilla!

    Post # 49
    Member
    2755 posts
    Sugar bee

    Wow, what a nutter! She totally has zero right to tell you what to do with a dress you bought.

    I was so happy that I actually managed to buy myself a dress for my friend’s upcoming wedding that I totally will wear again because the last bridesmaid dress I bought only ever happened again as…. a costume! (I was a zombie prom queen xD)

    Post # 50
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    1572 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I think your friend is crazy. What you do with a bridesmaid dress once the wedding it was meant for has come and gone, is none of her business.

    Bridesmaid dresses are oftentimes NOT loved by the wearers, but we wear them because our dear friends, the bride, has chosen them as part of her vision for a perfect day.

    If you think it worked well for your costume, after the wedding had passed, its none of her business, and she and her husband have too much time on their hands if they are bothered by this fact.

    Tell her to grow up and get over it!

    Post # 51
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    51 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    talk about control-freak! she has absolutely no say in what you do with that dress now that her wedding is over. i assume you purchased it, so acting like you needed “permission” is asinine.

    she probably just felt embarrassed to see something she undoubtedly picked out be worn in a comical/costumey fashion.

     

    Post # 52
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    7199 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @SeaSalt:  +1 I was thinking the same thing about the groom getting offended. Then again, he’s married to this crazy woman… he’s probably used to just agreeing with whatever random crap spills out of her mouth!

    Post # 53
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    2843 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    In Australia we have this saying “get your hand off it”, which means stop putting your hand down your pants and being a ridiculous idiot. 

    So, to this Crazy Fomer Bridezilla – GET YOUR HAND OFF IT. 

    This has been a public service announcement.

    Post # 54
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    3184 posts
    Sugar bee

    Ha! That’s hilarious that the bride would get offended. I used a black dress as a Holly Golightly costume. The bride thought it looked great and was a good use of the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress.

    Post # 55
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    1975 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @clairebbbear:  we do?

    But I think well done to you for finding a use for a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress after the day!!

    Post # 56
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    2843 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @Pokemon:  The Castle Smile

    But maybe I am showing my age!

    Post # 57
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    1975 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @clairebbbear:  haha I do remember being forced to watch that in school

    Post # 58
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    603 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - Outdoor

    I wore one of my mom’s bridesmaid’s dresses to do a report on Queen Mary II in 7th grade. It was full length, long sleeves, lace bodice and cuffs. Oh the 80’s. So not exactly a period reproduction but good enough for a 12 year old. Do I think that’s what the bride had in mind when she said “you can totally wear it again!” well no. (not an exact quote but I’m sure it was said, lol) Did I feel the need to call my mom’s friend and ask permission to wear it? Of course not! My mom gave me the dress to wear and that was that. Even if they paid for it it’s your dress to do with what you will.

    I’m going to be in my bridesmaid’s wedding coming up this year, and she bought fabric and we are going to make the dresses (bride’s sister and I both have seamstress experience) so the only thing we really have to buy are shoes, since the bride wanted something specific. At this point I don’t know for sure if I will end up wearing the dress or shoes again after the wedding, but because I know my friend I’m sure if I do, whatever the context, she will say “yay, i’m glad you got some use out of it!” 

    Post # 59
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    1602 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @ExcitedHooper:  This. Is. Insane.

    Tell her to get over herself.

    Post # 60
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    984 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man at ten years old for my cousin. Oh, it was horrible. Shiny pink silk, roses around the waist, off-the-shoulder bits that were too small to actually be off the shoulder… and about three tons of luminous pink netting. Add that to the red and white headband and flowers and it was horrendous.

    But you know, I wore it again. For a silly video at school where we acted out a wedding. I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man, lol! I’m pretty sure the bride was told about it, but I never heard anything about her being upset about it. Actually, everyone found it pretty funny, and now even she looks back and apologises to me for making me wear such a ghastly thing!

    That’s how it should be. It’s yours now.

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