- 4 years ago
- Wedding: February 2015
Hey Bees! Fiance and I are considering using charting, in addition to the BCP, to help prevent pregnancy. Currently we’re using BCP + pull out, but we would LOVE to not have to stop in the middle of sex “just to feel safer”. We both know that BCP alone is designed to prevent pregnancies with the guy finishing inside the woman, but we’re both worry-warts and use “pull out” for us to feel safer. Anyway, the other day on WB I saw some stuff about charting and thought that it might be another alternative to pullout. Of course, we would use pull out on days that I am “ovulating” (or avoid sex all together if needed) – just to be safe…
Anyway, I have a few questions, and hopefully y’all can answer these for me.
First, I’ve always been told that the combination pills work to stop ovulation. Got it (which is why “ovulation” above is in quotes). But does your body still “act” like it is ovulating? Meaning temperature change, change in discharge, etc.? Those seem to be key in charting, so if the BCP prevents the body from even acting like it is ovulating, it would be pointless to chart right?
Second, if the BCP stops the side effects of ovulation (obviously it stops you from ovulating, but I mean the temp and stuff), would you think that it would still be okay to go with an estimated window when you WOULD be ovulating, just in case you do HAPPEN to ovulate that month? If it doesn’t prevent the side effects, how long does it take to establish a good window?
Finally, I know that using a back up method isn’t needed with the BCP, but it would just give me ease of mind, you know? If you’re preventing pregnancy using the BCP, do you use any back up methods or just the BCP? If back up methods are used, what?
Seriously, I know little to nothing about the technical effects the BCP has on my body. I just know that it’s suppose to be like 99.9% effective with perfect use, and something like 92-94% with typical use. (I’m somewhere in the middle, I’ve missed a few pills -like 6 or 7- over the 9 or so years I’ve been on the pill, so not perfect, but typically I take it at the same time every day.) And yes, I know I should know more about the pill, but I’ve never really felt the NEED to know the in depth workings of the pill until now. All I really know is that my pill is considered a combination pill, is suppose to prevent ovulation (though I assume ovulation could still happen, since it isn’t perfect?), thicken the mucus, and alter the lining so that if an egg is fertilized it can’t attach to the wall. I also know how to properly take/handle the pills if I miss and when to use back up (such as taking antibiotics). Like I said early on, the only reason why we’re looking for a “back up” is for the extra peace of mind. I KNOW the BCP is designed to prevent pregnancy with its use alone, but I would LOVE to just have that extra layer of mental protection without having to stop. Also, I know that regardless, if we have sex pregnancy IS a risk no matter what steps we use, but I’m just looking for something that is still very safe without having to abstain.
(On an alternative note, we tried Spermicide and I do believe I am allergic to it from all the burning and itching it caused, and well, while we know condoms are the best choice for back up… we would really like the natural feel… oh and I looked in to getting an IUD but apparently I’m too small inside for one to safely be inserted.)
Thanks, and please, try not to make me feel too bad about being so ignorant on this topic. 🙂