(Closed) Using existing ring for engagement?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
6124 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think it’s totally fine!  Try not to worry about what others think.  Many brides use an heirloom whether it’s from her family or his family.  I’d call yours an heirloom – that just means previously owned and from one’s family right?

Would you like him to “propose” with the ring?  Or would you like to just claim yourselves engaged now and start wearing the ring? That is something else to discuss with your Boyfriend or Best Friend.

I was clear to my Boyfriend or Best Friend (now H) that I really wanted a proposal, despite the fact we were talking engagement and planning for it. 


Do you still want a wedding band to go with it?  I opted to NOT get an wedding band, and just take off and reuse the e-ring for the ceremony.  I only wanted one ring (also nontraditional).

Post # 4
11394 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Sweet & meaningful! I say for it!

Post # 5
5496 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

Not everyone has to know every detail! If someone asks you can always say “it’s an heirloom” (which is true!!) and leave it at that! Besides, your SO will be buying your wedding band so it sounds like the best of both worlds!

Post # 6
2270 posts
Buzzing bee

@wrkbrk:  I agree. There’s nothing to be ashamed of, since I think it’s a great idea to use the ring you have and love, but people may be snarky and judgmental. It’s best to keep the explanation short.

I love that you haven’t been wearing the ring since it needs to be resized. That is cool because it’ll be “new” to you and special.

Post # 7
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I know of several ladies that used heirloom rings as their e-rings.  Go for it!

Post # 8
2143 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

It’s basically just a family heirloom, lot’s of people use those, I don’t think it matters that it was already in your possesion for a while

Post # 9
89 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think it’s a lovely idea to use a family heirloom, and it doesn’t matter that you already own it! I am planning on using my grandmother’s plain gold wedding band when Fiance and I get married even though I’ve been wearing it every day on my right hand since high school. I would have been just as pleased if he would have used a family ring for our engagement had one been available, but unfortunately they were all passed down to other family members. If you say that it’s a family heirloom, most people will think it’s especially meaningful and sentimental. If they happen to ask who it was passed down from they’re probably just interested in the history behind it… and if they think your guy is being “cheap” then they’re just materialistic busybodies – who cares what they think!

Do you wear earrings and/or pendants? If you’re really concerned about what other people might say, or if your guy would like to give you something in additional to the symbol of love on your finger, he could pick out a pair of earrings or a necklace that matches with the ring and present the pieces together when he proposes. That way if people ask, you can not only say that the ring is an heirloom (and therefore EXTRA special!) but that your Fiance has amazing taste and picked out the earrings/necklace himself.

Btw I LOVE sapphires and think they’re timeless ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
3063 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think if you already have a ring that you adore then wear it! I certainly do not think it’s “cheap”. It’s better to have something you want to wear than something you feel obligated to wear just to appease other people.

Post # 11
2903 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Can you post a pic, we LOVE ring porn ๐Ÿ™‚

But yes, I think it would be totally fine to use it!

Post # 12
2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

picture please!

And i see no problem with that, if its what you want!

Post # 13
111 posts
Blushing bee

I think it’s a great idea ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 14
4714 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

Girl you do whatever the heck you want to do. No one matters but you and your Fiance when it comes to the engagement. Whatever ppl say IGNORE them and be happy. Your life -your rules- your happiness ๐Ÿ™‚

Congrats too by the way and welcome!!!!!

Post # 15
3357 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

if YOU think it’s your engagement ring, it’s your engagement ring. That’s IT.

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