(Closed) Using gifts before the wedding?

posted 12 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
484 posts
Helper bee

you technically aren’t supposed to b/c if anything should happen you are supposed to return the gifts. my mom is a stickler for etiquette so all of ours are tucked safely into my old closet at my parent’s house. however, i do take an item here and there. she hasn’t noticed yet!

Post # 4
2249 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2021

if they are for the shower i say use them!

Post # 5
278 posts
Helper bee

I think it’s okay to go ahead and use it as long as it’s after you’ve sent the gifter a thank you note.  If it were me – I’d love to see my gift is being used at the shower!  We all know a lot of gifts end up getting exchanged or returned.

Post # 6
1205 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Ooh, I didn’t even think about this. We opened our first wedding gift, although I did wait until my Fiance got home to open the boxes. We got one place setting for our dishes and dinnerware, so it’s kind of awkward to use — I am doing it anyway!

And I did already send the thank-you. Is it bad luck, or just the idea that I’d need to return the items if we called it off?

Post # 7
883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

Gifts from teh showere are fair game! Its the wedding gifts ahead of time taht you are supposed to  wait to use.

Post # 8
1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

that’s a good point if something happens you have to return the gifts

Post # 9
928 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

me personally…i am all about tradition and i think its a little tacky to use them before the wedding. i would be tempted, too but it would make it so much better just to wait until after you are officially starting your lives togther! 

 those are just my thoughts, you do what makes you happy!

Post # 10
3331 posts
Sugar bee

We didn’t use any of the gifts we received until after the wedding.  My fiance kept wanting to use them, but I just felt weird doing it until after the wedding was over.  I didn’t think anything would happen to cancel the wedding or anything, but I just wanted to make sure we didn’t want to return or exchange anything.  For example, we got some, but not all of our bath towels at the shower.  I didn’t want to use those, and have the color discontinued or something, so that we were stuck with some of one color and some of another.

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