(Closed) Using married name at new job before wedding

posted 7 years ago in Names
Post # 3
9082 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

It’d save you a lot of hassle to get things changed around. You’re going to be Mrs <whatever> so I see no harm in it.

Post # 4
5282 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I would check with HR – there might be an issue since your last name won’t match with your social security number. 

Or, see if you don’t have to change it regarding payroll, and instead only have your email, signature, and business cards with your married name with the understanding that you are paid in your maiden name. 

Post # 5
955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@LorettaB:  You may not really “have” a choice.  It may come down to what HR wants to handle it, and I’m guessing that your legal name will be the name that will be used for your email address and all your benefit and tax forms.


I would ask though.  They can’t shoot you for asking.  

Post # 6
1069 posts
Bumble bee

I’m in HR in Canada and legally we wouldn’t be able to allow it. Your best bet is to check with them.

Post # 7
272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would go for it and start using your future name. Changing your name and email address within a big corporation is a hassle.

HR shouldn’t have a problem, you can have your legal name in your contracts and payroll and use an email with your future name. I did it and it was fine (some people though I was jinxing the wedding but the wedding and marriage turned out amazing so there was no jinx :))

Post # 8
6116 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

FFor W2s and paycheck purposes you probably have to be your current name.  But putting your future name in emails and correspondence, that maybe a way around it.  However, we could not do that at my work as my email comes from HR and required a marriage certificat even to change my email name!



Post # 9
595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You are really going to have to check with HR and your manager to see if its allowed.  Personally I don’t think its such a big deal to change your name.  I did it twice in the 3.5 years I have been at my current job. 

Post # 10
605 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I agree with PPs about checking with HR. In a big company, it really isn’t such a big hassel. With hundreds or even thousands of employees, people get married/divorced/whatever all the time. It’s a common thing for HR to deal with.

It also depends on what type of work you’re doing. All of my work is legally traceable so I would have to use my current legal name in all communication. If your job doesn’t require anything like that and HR is on board, go for it.

Post # 11
4057 posts
Honey bee

I work in HR, and your email name, and what people call you really don’t matter. As long as your paperwork has your legal name you should be fine, and I think it makes sense to do that. It’s only three months!

Post # 12
3109 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

@LorettaB:  I think it’s weird. What about just keeping your maiden name for use at work? Or just change it after you get married- it’s really not that big of a deal.

Post # 13
1920 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I wouldn’t want to change my name before the wedding. Half the fun is finally getting to use your new name after you’re married. I was actually in this same situation. I started a job in November and got married in March. But I just changed it after the wedding and let people know. For a few months my email signature was like this:

Mary Smith (formerly Jackson) –     By The Way not my real name

People can figure it out, it’s a common occurrence.

Post # 14
3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’ve been married 8 months and still have my maiden name in my email signature the same way; MrsJ (MissS).  I figure a year will be good.  🙂

Ask HR if they’ll let you use your future name.  Probably not.  I couldn’t even change mine at work right away until I had my new SS card in my hand.  Our emails are made up of our names and they wouldn’t give IT the “ok” to change it before then, either.  Of course it was easy to change my signature, but the auto-generatured “from” and “to” in Outlook was still my maiden name. 

If anything, maybe hyphenate it for now and then drop the maiden name when you get it legally changed. 

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