Post # 1
My assistant actually asked me if we were expecting to get a lot of “envelopes” to help us pay for the wedding. I was a bit suprised b/c in my circles, people typically give gifts, not money.
And also, I’d be way too nervous to take a chance that I got money to pay for a wedding! I blurted out that we have the money saved to pay for the wedding already (otherwise I wouldn’t have a wedding like the one I am having but would downscale it) and she was kind of shocked.
Is this a typical thing that happens? She told me this is always what happens at weddings she goes to – that the guests bring cash to help the couple and their families pay for the wedding.
Post # 3
This just came up two days ago! I was shocked to think people bank on making that much money from their wedding.
Edit: Just saw you found that thread!
Post # 4
Yes – that is what inspired me to post b/c I had no idea! My assistant was shocked that we DIDN’T plan to do this type of thing. I told her we already have the money saved and she looked at me like I was from Mars.
I know its a chunk of change of course but we saved up and were careful with our money.
Post # 5
Well… then you should just be proud of yourself that you took the responsibility to plan the wedding you could afford and not be dependent on the possibility of gifts to help you pay it off! I’ve never heard of this (at least in American culture), I have always heard that any gifts (cash or otherwise) were to help the couple begin their new life together, not to pay off a party they couldn’t afford. People being irresponsible with money they didn’t have is what led to this economic downturn, so of course you should be planning a wedding only with money you have!
Post # 6
Wow, I can’t imagine relying on wedding income to pay for the wedding…what happens if you don’t ‘get what you need’?
I guess it comes down to the gifts being gifts, not payments for your wedding! You shouldn’t plan on them!
It is a little crazy that your coordinator said that–she must have encountered other brides where that’s the case?
Post # 7
@lattelove – yes i would be afraid to do this. it wasn’t my wedding coordinator that said this though – my assistant at work. she thought we’d be paying for our wedding that way.
Post # 8
we didn’t have all the $ when we started planning, but we were able to pay off the wedding a month after…luckily my credit card lets you carry a balance for free the month you get married
we WOULD have been totally fine, but my hubs needed a major car repair we hadn’t anticipated during our 6 mo. engagement
Plus, sometimes there are last minute, unanticipated expenses, so I think not having enough $$$ is risky. What if you had to carry a credit card balance w/ interest? <shudder>
Post # 9
I think it depends on the culture. In chinese culture, you get cash, and generally a fair amount, so you can make money on the wedding, especially since the traditionally chinese reception is done family style at a chinese restaurant. (My mom says that it usually costs about $1,000 per table of 10)
We probably will not make money on the wedding, but oh well!
What we haven’t decided is whether or not we can use cash gifts towards wedding costs….
Post # 10
Yeah, it’s typical in many Asian cultures to receive red envelopes with cash as gifts. My family is Chinese so we may get a few envelopes, but I’m certainly not banking on making a profit off my wedding, lol!