(Closed) Using Mr. Bee’s plan

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Helper bee

I’m not sure what “Mr. Bee’s plan” stands for?

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

My guy noticed pretty quickly once I shut up about ring talk. He started with all wedding talk shortly after. I got the ring a few weeks later (but him buying the ring also fell in line with getting the income tax refund).

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ugh. My guy is one of the immune ones. I haven’t brought up anything serious in months and he hasn’t said anything. He’s said it’s coming within a couple months the in the past though. Hopefully he’s trying to surprise me… :

Post # 10
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Helper bee

 Isn’t the point of mr. bees plan to help the woman stop obsessing? i don;t think it’s meant to magically get the guy to propose

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

I thought it was a bit of both. Get the woman to stop obsessing and because she’s no longer obsessing the guy feels more inclined to seriously consider marriage with her because she’s not wearing wedding goggles anymore. Maybe I’m wrong. I don’t know. 🙂

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Impatiently waiting:

It’s for getting engaged. The title says: 3 step plan and back up plan for getting engaged. Mr. Bee goes on to say that the plan is meant for commitmentphobes who say they need a little more time. He also says he compiled the plan after watching GFs of his friends try to get their guys to propose and if they had followed his plan instead they would have been engaged after months not years. That may have been the issue with my guy–I’m not sure commitmentphobia is the reason he hasn’t asked yet.

Post # 13
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Helper bee

@Tunacupcakes: I’m starting the Plan shortly, and will definitely update as I go along. But I just wanted to touch on the book you mentioned. I, too, have read both Why Men Love Bitches and Why Men Marry Bitches. When I follow the useful parts in both, it actually makes me laugh at how much my SO changes in the way he relates to me [ie: he’s all over me, insanely affectionate, and pursues more]. He’s always been that way, however, I find when I use the book’s advice more, he displays those characteristics way more.

An example? When I first got the book a couple years ago, I couldn’t put it down. My SO was at work. Normally when he texts me, I’ll text back fairly quick. Now if I text him a lot while he’s at work, sometimes he gets back to me quickly, and sometimes it takes a few hours [yes, I know work can be busy… but I’m even talking about the less-than-busier days at work lol].

I was so into my book, that I actually didn’t pay attention to my phone. A couple hours later, I go check my phone and he had texted me like 6 times and even tried calling me from work just to say hi and see what I was up to! He never, ever does that. Hahaha it cracked me up. It was hilarious, I knew that book was definitely a godsend then! I have other little examples too. But basically, it’s usually always the way it works [and it works like a charm]… you pull back a little, he comes towards you. The theory is so true, I can’t say enough about it.

It’s a great feeling when you let men pursue you. I don’t know why I fall off the wagon occasionally, I think it’s because I always liked unavailable guys when I was younger… so I’m used to pursuing. Plus I’m used to planning everything. That’s why waiting has been so difficult, I think. But anyway, definitely pick up both books if you get a chance. I’ve linked the ebook versions for you guys

In general, I feel like it’s a very empowering book. I think the biggest and greatest thing about it, is that it reminds you to put yourself first.

Which, as the awesome queens that we are, we should always be doing. We should always be treated like royalty by our lucky men. :o)

Post # 14
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Busy bee

My bf has been calling and texting me more and coming to my house more since I started seeing him less. I’ve just starting reading why men marry bitches and it makes so much sense to me. Ive always wondered why my sister has a ton of guys fighting over her and apparently it’s because she’s a bitch lol.

Post # 16
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Helper bee

@Tunacupcakes: We aren’t engaged yet, but I think it’s due in part to a] I don’t follow the book religiously, so that’s a problem, and b] he just doesn’t feel ready yet. I think I was around 23/24 when I bought the book [I’m turning 26 next month….ack!], and we had just moved in together. At that time, the main reason he hadn’t proposed was that he felt too young. Now, he just wants to feel more ‘settled’ – which as much as it hurts at times, I agree. We aren’t exactly rollin’ in dough lol, and he’s in a job that he isn’t happy with. He’s also had some major health stuff going on which has put him into a bit of a depression, which I think also affects him feeling like he’s good enough for me. His health issues are going to be lifelong, and he’s expressed feeling like a burden at times [which isn’t the case at all for me]. He always feels terrible whenever he thinks about the fact that he hasn’t proposed yet.

However, with that being said, since buying the book, our conversations about marriage/getting engaged have been way more productive than they had been beforehand. Just a couple months ago, we discussed getting engaged by next year. He was in agreement with that timeline, and also added that I wouldn’t be waiting forever – he has “plans.” He’s been much more receptive, and even randomly points out rings to me in commercials now, asking my thoughts.

I don’t think it will be too much longer [hopefully! haha], but I definitely think that the book has helped me feel better about this whole stage in our relationship. Plus, it’s always great to read whenever I’m feeling down about not being engaged yet. I’ll go from feeling like ‘oh why hasn’t he proposed yet? is it me?’ to ‘that’s right, I’m gonna make him work for it!’ haha.

 

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