@Tunacupcakes: I’m starting the Plan shortly, and will definitely update as I go along. But I just wanted to touch on the book you mentioned. I, too, have read both Why Men Love Bitches and Why Men Marry Bitches. When I follow the useful parts in both, it actually makes me laugh at how much my SO changes in the way he relates to me [ie: he’s all over me, insanely affectionate, and pursues more]. He’s always been that way, however, I find when I use the book’s advice more, he displays those characteristics way more.
An example? When I first got the book a couple years ago, I couldn’t put it down. My SO was at work. Normally when he texts me, I’ll text back fairly quick. Now if I text him a lot while he’s at work, sometimes he gets back to me quickly, and sometimes it takes a few hours [yes, I know work can be busy… but I’m even talking about the less-than-busier days at work lol].
I was so into my book, that I actually didn’t pay attention to my phone. A couple hours later, I go check my phone and he had texted me like 6 times and even tried calling me from work just to say hi and see what I was up to! He never, ever does that. Hahaha it cracked me up. It was hilarious, I knew that book was definitely a godsend then! I have other little examples too. But basically, it’s usually always the way it works [and it works like a charm]… you pull back a little, he comes towards you. The theory is so true, I can’t say enough about it.
It’s a great feeling when you let men pursue you. I don’t know why I fall off the wagon occasionally, I think it’s because I always liked unavailable guys when I was younger… so I’m used to pursuing. Plus I’m used to planning everything. That’s why waiting has been so difficult, I think. But anyway, definitely pick up both books if you get a chance. I’ve linked the ebook versions for you guys
In general, I feel like it’s a very empowering book. I think the biggest and greatest thing about it, is that it reminds you to put yourself first.
Which, as the awesome queens that we are, we should always be doing. We should always be treated like royalty by our lucky men. :o)