(Closed) Using my (divorced) mom's veil?

posted 5 years ago in Accessories
  • poll: Can I wear my mom's veil now that she and my dad are divorced?
    Yes : (21 votes)
    81 %
    No : (0 votes)
    Technically it's fine, but it seems weird : (5 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3078 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @paper_robot:  I would think of the veil as a symbol of your mom, and a symbol of love.  I think it would be wonderful to wear your mom’s veil.  It’s far more meaningful than one you would go buy at David’s Bridal or something like that.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1274 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think if you are in love with that veil, the fact that your mom wore it is fine IMO. I guess some people might think it’s a bit awkward or whatever, but I would phrase it to your mom that you would be honoured to borrow her veil if she’ll let you. That you think it is beautiful and you see it as representing your mom and your relationship to her or something, not a symbol of your parents’ marriage.

    The same thing can be said for second hand wedding dresses, shoes, headpieces, etc. They were worn one time by another bride. That marriage may too have ended in divorce – sometimes you aren’t sure. HOWEVER, the fact that your mom has this beautiful second hand veil I would use it if it were me. 🙂

     

     

     

    Post # 5
    Member
    589 posts
    Busy bee

    If you love the veil, then wear it.  I would not think too much of it just because they are now divoced.  The veil does not necessarily have to symbolize anything except for just being a beautiful veil.

    Post # 6
    Member
    2778 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I’d wear it as long as it feels right to you.  I will be wearing my mom’s dress and its not the one she married dad in, its from her first marriage.  She carried it around for 40 years even though she wasn’t sure why and then offered it to me when I got engaged.  This doesn’t bother me at all because it is beautiful and also seems like maybe that’s the reason she ended up holding on to it all these years.  She was heavier by the time she married dad and I would never fit into that dress (and I don’t think she has it anymore anyway.)  I say go for it.

    Post # 7
    Member
    8042 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @paper_robot:  I am not sure I buy into the idea of jinxes… like I am fairly superstitious, but there is no reason why wearing a veil would cause your marriage to fail.

    40 years is super respectable anyway… like so much can happen in that span of time… if your marriage lasts 40 years, that’s quite an accomplishment.

    If you feel iffy, don’t do it… but since you always planned on wearing it, I don’t see why you wouldn’t.

    Post # 8
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    6212 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    the veil, yes. I don’t people would recognize it, and if they did, they most likely wouldn’t care. I think it’s different that with a dress

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