Using my Great GMA's diamond for my ring?

posted 1 year ago in Rings
  • poll: Would you let him use my own great grandma's diamond for my ering?
    Yes and he buys the setting of my dreams (expensive) : (112 votes)
    77 %
    Yes, in whatever setting he likes : (31 votes)
    21 %
    No, and he buys a moissy to put in the setting of my dreams : (2 votes)
    1 %
    No, and he buys a smaller diamond to put in a cheaper setting : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 2
    6573 posts
    Bee Keeper

    If YOU are ok with this, then ignore what your mom is saying. Personally I would have LOVED an heirloom stone, its so romantic to me. 

    Post # 5
    684 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    I’d suggest the heirloom stone to him. Not just because it will keep the cost down but also because you’re not supporting the diamond trade. I think we all know what goes on there. Using an heirloom stone gets you out of that ethical pickle AND you’ll always have a double set of fond memories when you look at the ring.

    Post # 6
    8491 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: Dorset, UK

    futuremrsbee83 :  I’ve unspammed it for you! ๐Ÿ™‚ 

    Post # 7
    2118 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    You should definitely use great grandma’s stone!! I have my great grandmother’s stone re-set in a non-wedding ring. I love the meaning of having it and the connection. Plus, this way you can get the setting that you want! It is not unusual at all to reuse an heirloom stone. 

    Post # 8
    1931 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    Your mom’s opinion is strange and does not reflect etiquette or any other outdated tradition in place. There’s nothing wrong with an heirloom stone, and him having to save for a different, lower quality stone, does not mean he loves you more. That would be so wasteful.

    Post # 9
    699 posts
    Busy bee

    My ring was custom made with stones from my Fiance grandma and I LOVE the meaning and story behind it. IMO a passed down diamond is much more valuable then a brand new one

    Post # 11
    55 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2018

    I would definitely use it! I actually tried to have my great grandma’s stone put into my own and when the jeweler inspected it under a microscope he saw some cracking and didn’t think it would withstand being put into a new setting. I know diamonds are obviously strong, but he said he wasn’t completely surprised since the stone is about 100 years old. So just a word of advice, I would have the diamond inspected (if you haven’t already) before he buys the setting to be safe! 

    Post # 12
    355 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    Your plan sounds lovely. Your mom is the weird one here! 

    Post # 13
    331 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    I LOVE my heirloom stone – it was his great grandma’s opal ring.  It kinda glows and it is very meaningful to me.  Super glad I have it instead of a diamond to be blunt.

    Post # 14
    746 posts
    Busy bee

    futuremrsbee83 :  Your mom is wrong. This idea is NOT inappropriate at all. Sounds like your mom would prefer if your fiance bought you an new diamond ring. That’s her opinon.

    But it’s YOUR preference that really matters. If you and your boyfriend are fine with the idea of your great-grandma’s heirloom stone, it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. Many bees actually have heirloom stones, so it’s not uncommon to do this!

    Post # 15
    1460 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

    This is a great idea! My husband and I used two baguettes that were family heirlooms as side stones in my engagement ring. When we went ring shopping, I brought them with me and we showed the jeweler and he was able to incorporate them into the ring with no problem. I recommend you do this with your boyfriend too- try to go see your dream setting in person so you can try it on and talk to the jeweler about using your heirloom stone. 

    And then show us pics when it’s all come together! ๐Ÿ˜Š

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