Using my mom's old wedding dress?

posted 2 years ago in Dress
  • poll: What do y'all think would be the best dress option for me?
    Get a new dress! That one's not for you. : (28 votes)
    32 %
    I like your mom's dress! But only if you get the sleeves removed or altered. : (59 votes)
    67 %
    Keep the dress the way it is! I like the rustic style! : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 16
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    182 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

     

    hopie9 : I love your dress if it were mine I would just work out a way to give the sleeves a more simple morn look.  

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    Post # 18
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    3837 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    I think your mum’s dress has a lot of potential! I think the waist would be very flattering once fitted properly, and it has some gorgeous detailing. I like the frilly train edge. The sleeves would have to go, and I agree with a PP about removing that little bit that sticks up in the middle of the neckline, and maybe a lower back for a sexy element. If it would be fun and meaningful for you to wear her dress then I think you could totally make it work. If you would actually rather buy your own though that’s ok too! 

    Post # 19
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    585 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    observer :  Thanks, she’s an artist. I absolutely love her. She would be mortified if she knew I posted this before my wedding. She is such a stickler for tradition and etiquette. 

    OP, the bottom line is there is so much you can do if you have someone who knows what he/she is doing. You can keep the general integrity of the dress, or you can do something a little more dramatic like I did, or you can go crazy with it. There was some show on television somewhere (can you tell I don’t watch TV?) that dealt with women altering their mother’s wedding dresses to the extreme so they were barely recognizable. I’m not a fan of this myself because I wanted people to see the comparison (I’m doing portraits in mine before the wedding and then displaying them next to portraits of my mom at the reception) but the sky is the limit as long as your mom is okay with it. No matter how much you change it’s still a really special and really cool thing if it works for you. 

    Post # 20
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    275 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2020

    I love it if the big poofy sleeves were removed.

    Post # 21
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    6181 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2016

    The bodice is beautiful, the detailing at the back is gorgeous as is the neckline and the waist looks really good on you. I think you should modify/remove the sleeves at rhe very least. But there’s also plenty of fabric in the skirt to make adjustments there as well, if you wanted to.

    Post # 22
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    125 posts
    Blushing bee

     I choose the option to altered your mom dress since the dress would look very nice when it is for properly and removed the older trend (puffy sleeves etc). I love the details in the back of your dress, when it will fit properly the body form would be gorgeous but what I really like is the detail of the bottom of the dress. 

    However it depend if you find a good seemstress, your budget,if your mom is willing to let you altered everything you would like, and if you essentially want to wear it instead of having a new dress.

    Post # 23
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    497 posts
    Helper bee

    Wear your Mom’s dress.Just get it altered. Pass it down to yoiur daughter some day.

    Post # 24
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    52 posts
    Worker bee

    hopie9 :  It is a beautiful gown and it looks lovely on you.  Removing the sleeves, only, would maintain the original gown, yet make it yours.  I think it’s beautiful, and that your Mom saved it in such great condition, and hoping you would wear it…you can’t get better than that.  One thing about the sleeves – many women looking for a more funky, or medieval style, would kill for them.  How lucky you are to have both the Mom and her dress, and your husband-to-be.

    Post # 25
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    52 posts
    Worker bee

    beckybee787 :  Are you thinking of the evil sister Tess in the movie ’27 Dresses’?  I nearly vomit when I watch that scene.

    Post # 26
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    585 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    testyone :  I’m not. I actually haven’t seen that movie. I found out about the show when I googled wearing your mom’s wedding dress a while back. It’s actually so hard to find stories/photos of people doing it. I don’t know if it’s uncommon or people just don’t talk about it. The show is kind of horrid (though no offense to the ideas) because they purposely create drama by making the mothers cry and cringe and become uncomfortable with the alterations while everyone else laughs. I don’t think there is anything wrong with altering your mother’s dress (obviously) but I would never never never do anything my mom wasn’t okay with. 

    Post # 27
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    847 posts
    Busy bee

    hopie9 :  beautiful dress! I’m not sure if this will help you, but there’s a show on TLC where they take mothers old wedding dress a turn it into their dream dress. Maybe you can get some ideas.

    Post # 28
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    52 posts
    Worker bee

    beckybee787 :  Google hasn’t been our friend for a long time.  The information you seek regarding the tradition of wearing mother’s wedding dress is to be found in books and discussions with women.  I can’t imagine what a dress of that quality would cost now.  I don’t watch reality tv.  Sounds like a horrid show that you don’t need.  You’ll look fabulous no matter what, and it is just a few hours out of everything else that is really important.

    Post # 29
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    583 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    hopie9 :  How do you feel about the dress itself?  It’s pretty but it’s a very specific, IMO dated style.  Even if you remove the sleeves, the fabric, the beading, and the shape of the hemline are all very “EIGHTIES!”  Is that the look you want for your own wedding dress?

    FWIW, my mom had a very similar dress and was pretty keen for me to wear it, but I just wasn’t feeling it.  Instead, I took some of the lace appliques off the sleeves, beaded them, and made them into a belt for my own dress.  She was happy that I had included her dress in some form, and I was happy that I got to wear something I felt good in.

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    Post # 30
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    beckybee787 :  

    What a transformation ! The end result was wonderful !

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