Post # 1
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701 posts
Busy bee
- Wedding: August 2019 - City, State
Hey Bee’s!
I’m part of a facebook wedding group in my area and I saw a post on there that made be really curious what Bee’s would havr to say about it.
A recent Bride posted, asking if it was cheesy or tacky to send both her wedding thank you card, and christmas card in one envelope. She wanted to save the money on buying a second stamp. I was very surprised to see that 99% of the people who commented told her to just do it or even combine both cards into one!
I commented first, stating I thought she should do two seperate cards, as I believe that it is proper ettiquette. As well, I think that especially for weddings, a thank you card should be it’s own seperate item to thank your guests for being part of your special day. I stated that if I recieved a thank for you coming to my wedding and the gift inside a Christmas card, I would be a little offended that the couple ‘couldn’t be bothered’ to do a seperate card. I would feel the same way if I recieved a typed card instead of hand written, it just makes it seem like the couple couldn’t be bothered.
What are your thought’s Bee’s? Can you do both a thank you and Christmas card in one? Can you do two cards in one envelope? What are your thoughts!
Post # 2
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820 posts
Busy bee
Someone posted a similar question on here in recent weeks.
I believe they should be separate. We have about 10 thank you notes left to send from our early October wedding. I also have a stack of our (awesome) Christmas cards and envelopes sitting here to address and send, but I am holidng of until the thank you notes are out. I will be sending the rest of the thank you notes today and tomorrow, and waiting until next week to send the Christmas cards.
Even though we are within the acceptable thank you note timeframe, I would be put off if I were one of our guests and received a Christmas card either before, with, or right after getting our thank you card. Kind of like, “they had time to select a picture, design and order a card, and send it out before they could do my thank you note?”
I believe they should be sent separately, with the thank you notes having the priority of going out first.
Post # 3
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1653 posts
Bumble bee
I agree separate is best. If the wedding is late November or early December or if the couple was in financial duress, I’d sent the thank you note with a p.s Merry Christmas! At the bottom.
Post # 4
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8406 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
Facebook wedding groups are the epitome of horrible etiquette advice. Literally every post I see is about doing a wishing well, honeyfund, raffle tickets, cash bar, etc. It’s a dumpster fire lol.
Add me to the separate list, unless you literally had a christmas themed wedding and are just super fast at getting cards out.
Post # 5
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47430 posts
Honey Beekeeper
I think they should be sent separately, however, getting a thank you note in a Christmas card is better than not getting one at all.
Post # 6
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669 posts
Busy bee
Thank you > Christmas card, even if that means skipping the Christmas card this year.
Post # 7
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4960 posts
Honey bee
Separate is best. I’m not even 100% opposed to one envelope (but separate cards) though I’m not convinced that the weight won’t require two stamps anyway.
But if you’re running so skinflint that the cost of some stamps matters that much then I’d say skip the holiday cards and just send an eCard for that and get the thank you cards in the mail.
Post # 8
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Helper bee
I don’t care personally. It all goes in the trash sooner than later. Or in my case the recycle bin. So I have no issue with people saving money, postage, or trees. So being offended or thinking they lack etiquette would never happen.
Would I do it? No. But I would not be offended or really think anything of it is my point.
Post # 10
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254 posts
Helper bee
- Wedding: June 2016 - City, State
Ha! two of the weddings we went to last year sent their thank you cards together with their baby announcement (so it was very late for a thank you card…). Honestly we didn’t really care, I’m in the “save the trees” team
Post # 11
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701 posts
Busy bee
- Wedding: August 2019 - City, State
bear123 : Love this, I totally agree. How hard is it to send an extra card? Not to mention, I know stamp costs add up, and weddings are by no means cheap, but I feel like it’s one of those things that you shouldn’t cheap out on.
jellybellynelly : Aren’t they? I’m only on it to buy items off of other brides. I couldn’t believe everyone saying just do it, who cares, etc etc. One girl even said anyone who would be offended needs to re-evaluate their priorities and life. I so badly wanted to respond and say this is why proper ettiquette and manners have DIED.
annabananabee : I thought the same thing, two cards would likely trigger an extra charge for the weight! Love the idea of sending email christmas cards if you’re strapped for cash!
butternutter : Email cards and/or recycled paper? While I am totally all for save the tree’s, I think certain things do need to be put on paper. Heck, you could even do it on that special paper that has seeds in it so you can return it to the earth!
Post # 12
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690 posts
Busy bee
gunnabamissus : sounds good!
But in all honesty, if I got two cards in the post…on the same…from the same person…obviously both posted on the same day…and both stamped… I’d think it was a tad silly.
Id rather just forgo the Christmas card.
Post # 13
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786 posts
Busy bee
Email your Christmas announcement! Generic mass mail-outs for Christmas aren’t very touching anyways, so why not do that electronically and include a link to some more of your wedding photos?
Post # 14
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1249 posts
Bumble bee
We just celebrated our first anniversary. We sent our pictures with our thank you cards and didn’t send separate holiday cards at all. This year we’re sending out holiday cards. I’d probably side eye someone that send both in one envelope.
Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
It’s not appropriate to combine them. Here’s the recent thread if you are interested.
https://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/christmas-card-help/