Using one envelope for Wedding Thank you & Christmas Card

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
820 posts
Busy bee

Someone posted a similar question on here in recent weeks.

I believe they should be separate. We have about 10 thank you notes left to send from our early October wedding. I also have a stack of our (awesome) Christmas cards and envelopes sitting here to address and send, but I am holidng of until the thank you notes are out. I will be sending the rest of the thank you notes today and tomorrow, and waiting until next week to send the Christmas cards.

Even though we are within the acceptable thank you note timeframe, I would be put off if I were one of our guests and received a Christmas card either before, with, or right after getting our thank you card. Kind of like, “they had time to select a picture, design and order a card, and send it out before they could do my thank you note?”

I believe they should be sent separately, with the thank you notes having the priority of going out first.

Post # 3
1653 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I agree separate is best. If the wedding is late November or early December or if the couple was in financial duress, I’d sent the thank you note with a p.s Merry Christmas! At the bottom. 

Post # 4
8406 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Facebook wedding groups are the epitome of horrible etiquette advice. Literally every post I see is about doing a wishing well, honeyfund, raffle tickets, cash bar, etc. It’s a dumpster fire lol. 

Add me to the separate list, unless you literally had a christmas themed wedding and are just super fast at getting cards out. 

Post # 5
47430 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think they should be sent separately, however, getting a thank you note in a Christmas card is better than not getting one at all.

Post # 6
669 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Thank you > Christmas card, even if that means skipping the Christmas card this year. 

Post # 7
4960 posts
Honey bee

Separate is best. I’m not even 100% opposed to one envelope (but separate cards) though I’m not convinced that the weight won’t require two stamps anyway.

But if you’re running so skinflint that the cost of some stamps matters that much then I’d say skip the holiday cards and just send an eCard for that and get the thank you cards in the mail.

Post # 8
417 posts
Helper bee

I don’t care personally. It all goes in the trash sooner than later. Or in my case the recycle bin. So I have no issue with people saving money, postage, or trees. So being offended or thinking they lack etiquette would never happen. 

Would I do it? No. But I would not be offended or really think anything of it is my point.


Post # 9
690 posts
Busy bee

Save the trees. 

Post # 10
254 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016 - City, State

Ha! two of the weddings we went to last year sent their thank you cards together with their baby announcement (so it was very late for a thank you card…). Honestly we didn’t really care, I’m in the “save the trees” team

Post # 12
690 posts
Busy bee

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gunnabamissus :  sounds good!

But in all honesty, if I got two cards in the post…on the same…from the same person…obviously both posted on the same day…and both stamped… I’d think it was a tad silly.

Id rather just forgo the Christmas card. 

Post # 13
786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Email your Christmas announcement! Generic mass mail-outs for Christmas aren’t very touching anyways, so why not do that electronically and include a link to some more of your wedding photos?

Post # 14
1249 posts
Bumble bee

We just celebrated our first anniversary.  We sent our pictures with our thank you cards and didn’t send separate holiday cards at all.  This year we’re sending out holiday cards.  I’d probably side eye someone that send both in one envelope.

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